She is out drinking all the time while her Fiance is working, she doesn't hesitate to point out every man she has ever slept with and I know that some of them are since they have been together. Her reputation around town is that of a permiscuous women and she cannot hold a job. She has a Daughter of her own whom she leaves with the Father all the time lately, it seems. Her Fiance is sure that once they get married, she will settle down. I think she will just get worse. Her own Father is sure she will just destroy this man she is marrying. I like both the parents but there is a lot of disfunction involved.
We will be getting an invitation. I would never do anything to ruin her special day.
Is it acceptable to go to this wedding knowing how I feel? I have never been to a wedding I felt was doomed from the start. I would love to see her mature and make this union work.
2007-01-31 08:48:44 · 16 answers · asked by RaLoh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, you can go and have a good time, and support her parents if no one else.
2007-01-31 08:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Certainly attend and wish the best for all involved, especially the poor child. My sympathies are with the fiance as you have described the story, but it sounds like he knows pretty well what he is getting into prior to walking down the aisle. Hopefully he is not playing the martyr and believing that he can change this woman, because as you are more than aware people cannot or will not change for anyone else but themselves. Have fun at the wedding regardless and say a little prayer for this couple also I would suggest, it might not help but it just might help.
2007-01-31 08:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, to put it frankly, it is not your problem. I'm sure he's heard already from a thousand people what kind of person she is but HE wants to marry her and HE is going to do it. All you can do is be there and be supportive.
My best friend married a guy who I just KNEW was the worst guy ever. We (all our friends) made it a point to tell her. She still went through with it and had the most lavish, gorgeous wedding. All the while, watching their first dance was a horrible experience for me.
Three months later she called me and said they were separating.
You have to let people live their lives on their own.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-31 08:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand the dilema you are going through. But, you just cannot go. I mean, your friend-HER FATHER-even knows that the young man is too good for her. You should go to support the friend and the young man who is marrying her and hope to God that something happens where she will be taught a valuable lesson and that she will lose full custody of that daughter of hers. Maybe then, she can get herself into rehab, get off the booze, get a job and sto worrying about sex with everyone. Maybe if they moved out of town it may do some good. Anyway, go to the wedding and just tell your friend that if he needs an ear, you are there for him. And the young man.
2007-01-31 09:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever talked with your friends to express how you feel about the daughter, but it plainly obvious that they feel the same way since the father has already expressed to you that he is sure his daughter will ruin this guys life.
The only way I would attend the wedding would be to be supportive of your friendship with the family but if you can't mask your true feelings and have a good time, then I would suggest you not attend the wedding because it may make things worse. For the sake of friendship I would say go ahead and attend the wedding but "only" if you can mask your true feelings.
2007-01-31 09:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Pegi 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tough call. Usually you attend a wedding in support of the decision. I'm assuming you're close enough to this family for this to be a difficult decison for you? Or are you just an acquaintance? An acquaintance, then it wouldn't matter either way.
CLOSE family friend?
I would suggest you speak with this girl or better yet, her fiance. Maybe suggest Dad speak with him. If everyone "sees" this woman for her true character & this young man is blinded by his feelings, someone needs to slap him up the side of the head. (not really) but he needs to wake up. NOW!
Marriage is serious business.
2007-01-31 08:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the computer human beings will say ''oh you're being discriminate" bla bla. i could call it being sensible. they have been raised by using a e book that needless to say states adult men are stronger to females, lots of them have been raised in cultures the place females are 2d type, that's to be envisioned that issues will turn bitter. enable's be genuine right here. almost each and every female i understand who's dated a muslim has ended up regretting it because of the fact they grew to become very posessive and had loads of alternative unfavorable features. regrettably they view male babies as a lot greater stronger than women too. My spouse is pregnant with twin women and positively i could be horrified in the event that they grew up and married like that. in the event that they are able to't admire their very own better halves then who do they admire?
2016-11-23 18:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by treat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that strongly about not going then just give the brides mother a call and decline the invitation. You do not have to say why just say you already had plans for that particular day.
2007-01-31 08:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you cannot attend the wedding without spreading your negative feelings, don't go. She is not your daughter, and although she sounds like a nightmare, it's not any of your business to decide who she is fit for.
2007-01-31 08:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does what she does affect you at all? Its really none of your business what she does or who she does it with. If you are invited to the wedding it is more for her parents than her...guess you need to decide if you are a good enough friend to go or not.
2007-01-31 08:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to show your support for her future husband & her family. Just be kind. You could always skip out on the reception since you don't want to celebrate this relationship with them.
2007-01-31 12:40:57 · answer #11 · answered by ~M~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋