17 years ago I was widowed. My husband had a six year old grandson that was born during our marriage. I felt as though he were my grandson and I adored him. After a few years I remarried and his daughter (the boys mom) did not approve. Therefore our relationship was splintered. For the last few years I have been watching the paper to see if he was getting married. Well, last Sun. there it was. I was thrilled to see a picture of him. Would it be proper to attend his wedding without an invitation. I just want to see him get married. He would not know who I was, but of course his mom would.
2007-01-31 08:47:09 · 9 answers · asked by Jipsii 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm sorry, that sounds like such a hard situation for you.
It probably wouldn't be proper for you to attend the wedding uninvited, and you wouldn't want to cause trouble for him on such an important day. Maybe you could send him and his new wife a card of congratulations, tell him who you are and how much you loved his grandpa and him, and ask him if he'd consider sending you a wedding picture. He's a grown man now, and since he's no longer under his mothers control, maybe a renewed relationship could come about between you. Hope things work out.
2007-01-31 08:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would not recommend you to attend a wedding you have not been invited, it is not proper, and your presence may cause some disturbance.
What i think you should do, if you care for your grandson, i would send him a card congratulating him for the soon to come wedding, with a gift card or a small gift. Attached your phone number, e-mail address and house address. Tell him that you have always think of him as a grandson and would like to be part of his life if he and his future wife approve. Then maybe they decide to invite you to the wedding, maybe just to church not the reception, so be prepared for it, but do not attend without an invitation. Just wait and see what happens, you may be surprised.
Good luck,
Atzi
2007-01-31 09:07:27 · answer #2 · answered by Atzy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just showing up would be rude but by all means contact either him or the mother! It's been a long time, maybe the hard feelings have mellowed out... I very much hope she'll have come around by now and you'll be welcome, or even if you don't get an invitation to the wedding itself you can get in touch with the young man and catch up! He's an adult now; he can make his own decisions on who to see, and also maybe his mom is a bit less worried about your/your husband's influence on him.
Oh, just in case consider the possibility she'll say you can come but not to bring your husband... if maybe she still has a problem with him. Can't tell you what to do if that's what she says but it's a very real possibility, so don't be too shocked or embarrased if that's the case....
2007-01-31 09:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be proper to attend a wedding uninvited. Even if your only going to the church. Why don't you do a search for his address if he's no longer living with his mother. Then, you could write him a letter. He'll most likely remember you. Give him your contact information and then maybe you two can get to know each other again. Who knows, if you rekindle a relationship with him, then maybe he'll invite you to his wedding.
2007-01-31 11:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not recieve an invitation, it would be EXCEPTIONALLY rude to attend. More than likely all you would end up doing is upseting the mother. Other than the day she gave birth to her son, it should be one of the happiest days of her life. If you go you not only have the risk of crashing Mom's day, but also the bride and groom's day.
2007-01-31 08:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Steph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call his mom and just tell her you're not trying to barge in on his life, but you miss him and want to see him get married.
OR, find out how to contact your grandson. What do you have to lose?
2007-01-31 09:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You weren't given an invitation. Just send him a card and congradulate him.
2007-01-31 09:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by sellatieeat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, attending uninvited is inappropriate. Sending a gift would be fine.
2007-01-31 09:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by leslie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt invite yourself...that would *** across as really rude
2007-01-31 08:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by DAT CHICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋