im very smart, a good wife and a great mother. she yells and swears, and scares my son. she acts like im stupid. if i call up the cable company or something, she says ''let me talk to them i know how to talk''. Well so do i. I can speak for myself. But I cant stick up for myself to her, thats the problem. she gets offended and very defensive. i cant get a word in. Oh ya by the way, my husband does not help me out b/c hes also afraid of her. HELP i need advice. Thanks
2007-01-31 08:30:11 · 8 answers · asked by Jilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like your mother-in-law has her own issues she's not dealing with. I wouldn't take it personally. People like this will treat just about everyone the same way. It's a form of power for control and runs along the lines of emotional abuse.
You can stick up for yourself though and say NO. Or better yet, you can say "no thank you I can do it myself" It's ok to do that. It's not your problem if she gets offended and very defensive. It's her problem to deal with and her's only. Please don't ever feel quilty or scared because someone else is behaving inappropriately. The best you can do is approach these times as calmly and respectfully as you can. Be honest and say what you feel.
You and your husband need to get on the same team and stick up for your son too! He should have the most concern, especially if her behavior frightens him. So if you can't stick up for yourselves, do it for your son. Let her know what is unacceptable behavior in your house and what you will or will not allow.
2007-01-31 08:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by NanaCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation. I know all mother-in-laws have their bad days with their daughter/son in law, but this situation is not the norm. I would definetly talk to your husband about it, if he is not willing to stand up to his mom on his own for his family, maybe you two should approach her together. Be honest and tell her how you both feel, she will most likely get upset and defensive. Try to stay calm but if worst comes to worst, you may have to separate yourself from her. If she is truely putting on a damper on your life, you may need some time apart from her. It may also make her realize her actions. But your husband needs to help you. Good luck.
2007-01-31 08:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by maldmb03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start standing up for yourself because both you and your husband are letting his stupid mother walk all over the both of you! So what if she gets defensive and offended! She needs to hear the truth and start learning to think twice of what she's going to say before it comes out of her mouth! Good luck and hopefully my advice helps!
2007-01-31 08:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U both need to band together and deal with her. Dont allow her to scream at your children thats not right. With the cable company thing just make your calls when she isnt around.I hope your not living with her if so get out on your own.
2007-01-31 12:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with her, or she live with you ? If so get out. You and your husband are adults you have a family and do not need to be treated with such disrespect.. Stand your ground, or she will never change and if you don't you have to right to complain. Sorry and good luck
2007-01-31 08:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No mother thinks any woman is right for their son! But if she's scaring your child then you need to tell her to shut her piehole! Stand up for yourself against this woman. Put her in her place!!
2007-01-31 08:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her then to take care of everything including the bills
2007-01-31 18:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by dodgeum43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people always pick on the dumb.
2007-01-31 10:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by hoodwink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋