My bf keeps avoiding/ignoring me?

Question

two nights in a row, my long-distant bf has signed off MSN within 10 mins of me going online. He could permanently block me, but it seems he wants to make it obvious that he's avoiding me... you get what I mean. also haven't heard from him for nearly a week. I know you guys are thinking "He's soooo not into you" but I can't help but think why the hell is he acting immature with the MSN thing?!!
By the way, I've known him for two years! he can't do this and get away with it, do you think I should just call him and tell him to just tell me he ain't interested instead of keeping me hanging on, it's pathetic!
Do you think if I ignore him, it'll frustrate him?! and make HIM wonder why I'm not bothered bout him? I need your advice!

Answer 1

If you ignore him. it will make the relationship worse. The best thing to do is to confront your problems and talk. Call him and instead of yelling and getting angry, ask him gently why he signs off messenger after you come on. The nicer you are, the less defensive he will be. Who knows, it could be a simple misunderstanding, you will not know until you ask.

Answer 2

Well games are for children, and getting back at someone just because they are no longer interested in you is vendictive, avoid being both and just send him an email saying that it's over. I know exactly what you're going through I had a long distance relationship on MSN, and it seemed like he did the same thing. So one day I left him an email and I told him that he was being a child and if he didn't want to talk to me that's all he had to say. Later on that night we talked and it turned out that he wasn't ignoring me, he had been away for a week and his brother had been using the computer. You know whenever you put on automatic sign in, whenever the computer comes on it does it anyway. The point is you never know, but he'll find some way to get in contact with you. Don't call him, don't write him. He and I didn't even work out, I'm with someone who I love now and who is the one for me, so maybe by trying to salvage what you have you're actually wasting your time. Let him know it's over, if it was a mistake he'll get back to you. In 1-2 days if he doesn't. Move on, you deserve so much better sweetie! Good luck!

Answer 3

IGNORING someone's harsh attempt to hurt IS ALWAYS useful. It worked for me everytime (back before I was married). This may not be so useful in your situation. YOU SHOULD call him for sure. If he does not answer, say into the voicemail calmly "All you need to do is tell me what is up, where this relationship stands. Would you like it much if I ended this with you in the same way you are trying to do to me?"


It's clear that he is avoiding you. And I am sorry for the pain that this brings you. BUT, what he is doing is pretty rude. Don't think that if he comes around soon, by emailing or calling, and acting like its all good. Please use your common sense in knowing that he may very well do this same thing again. And if it were not a long distance thing, he could possibly leave for days at a time, and come back like "no big deal:" u know?

I think you ought to move on, long distance things do not ever work. People have to be "together" on a more regular basis to even call it a relationship.

Im sorry your dude turned out to be a dunce.
Im sorry.

Answer 4

Ok, first thing, this internet drama has got to go, what you should do is call him up and LET HIM KNOW that he's being a little immature. Tell him what the hell is on your mind and ask him what he feels towards you. You won't get anything but problems if you just ignore him back, so be an adult here and tell him what you feel. TRUST me, once you get things straight things will change..

Set the cards on the table and let him know where you're coming from and based on his reaction you should decide whether you have the time and the patience to keep playing games, or have the character to move on and find something/someone better for you. Good luck.

Answer 5

My goodness... a whole two nights in a row without chatting online for more than 10 minute? And what's this? Nearly a week without hearing from him? What is the world coming to?

You both clearly are too immature to be in a relationship. Give each other a break.

Oh, and give us a break, too!

Answer 6

Most guys don't like the process of breaking up. So they just cut off communication thinking we will just get the hint. If you need to know you and a female friend take a trip to see him unannounced. You'll know for sure whats up and your friend is right there for moral support. If its worse than you expect. In the mean time make yourself look drop dead gorgious and go out and buy yourself something and let all the guys you see while your out drool. It will be fun. If you can make a day of it with a close girlfriend.

Answer 7

You need to call and talk to him. Any relationship requires conversation. If something minor happened and he's upset about it you could totally mess up the whole relationship by just "ignoring him".
1) Call him
2) Ask him why he's ignoring you
3) Figure out if he's commited to you.

Long distance relationships are very difficult but possible if both parties work at it. He's obviously not working at it. Good luck! Hopefully I helped you a little.

Answer 8

Long distance CAN work. It happens all the time.
But it takes TWO people to put in the effort.

This MAY be a sign that he's lost his interest. You've got to be real here. Don't lie to yourself. I know it's hard though.

Call him and ask him what's up. Don't start accusing him. Something may be going on on his side. So don't start off being upset, because then HE'LL be upset as well. Just ask him what he's been up to. Then go on from there.

I hope things go fine.

But remember, if this doesn't work out for you, there's someone better out there that you truly deserve.

If God brings you to it,
He'll bring you through it.

Answer 9

Guys move one of two directions in a relationship.
Forward or Backward.
If he's moving backward and your not married or in a committed relationship with him, let him go. It means he's just not that into you. Move on 'cause you do NOT need the drama. Also ... just a general rule of thumb:
YOU DO NOT WANT A MAN WHO CONSISTENTLY WITHDRAWS WITH NO EXPLANATION. Trust me on this. It means that when hard times come he will likely turn on you or turn elsewhere for comfort rather than being your "partner". Also ... his withdrawal with no explanation is an indication that will put his emotional needs over yours. Every time.
Ditch him.

Answer 10

Did you do something or say something to get him upset the last time you talked to him. but that still does not give him the right to ignore you. give him his own medicine back, don't call him or anything. let him wonder what you are up to. and go out with your friends and have a good time, maybe you will meet someone better and that will give you the respect you need. good luck.