Why would god do this to me?

Question

I am 29 year old female, 8 surgeries, no children

my doc wants me to get a hysterectomy and i am so scared, i want kids so bad and have prayed so many times i cant count and i wonder why god would do this to me?

he says if you ask you will recieve, but not me.... what did i do to get treated like this?

why do people who have kids and treat them awful get blessed but i get nothing... i am a good person

why? and how do i deal with this and still believe in him

Answer 1

Maybe God is protecting you from something you don't even know could happen?

A loving father tells his daughter not to touch the stove; the child doesn't know why.

When the child does it anyway, disobeying the father, it hurts!

Keep your faith, and when you ask God to do things, ask with a desire to understand and accept what he has for you.

"For all things work together for the good to those who are called according to the will of God"

Stay in the Word! And by all means, get encouraged by your faithful friends and leaders! Don't suffer alone, the Bible is clear that we need each other.

Answer 2

Don't lose faith. Sarah was in her 90's when she gave birth.
God is not punishing you at all. If your doc wants you to get hysterectomy then the doc is trying to save you. So, God is leading you to find qualified doctors to help you with your medical decisions. No matter how hard they are.
If you should be barren, don't cry the tears of sorrow. Maybe God wants you to open up your eyes and to adapt children from other places like from China, Russia, Mexico or from any other country.
Sometimes through the terrible things we see the goodness of humanity. Maybe this is your chance to make a wish come true for any of the children than want to be adapted and are looking for good parents to love them and take care of them.
I hope that you will not get discouraged and look at this challenge as a fluke and concentrate on a big picture. To concentrate of getting better, finding yourself a mate (if you do not have one right now), and making a difference in someone else's life who truly needs it.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such pain sweetie *hugs* you have my love and I hope you find the strength to deal with your situation.

Maybe God is guiding you down a different path? You obviously have so much love to give, perhaps you are one of the few who can genuinely help children who have lost their parents, or been deserted, or who have had an abusive early childhood. These children need mothers who truly love them, appreciate them and can care for and look after them. Adoption is a huge decision, but for you it may be the best way to have children, and the Lord looks kindly on those who help others. There are children out there is desperate need of a momma like you who really does have a heart and in kind and loving. Sweetie, I think you'd make an amazing mom, and you obviously have a strength like few others, you could be the one to make an incredible difference in a needy childs' life.

Answer 4

When I am in a situation that I don't understand, I try to remember that the story isn't finished yet. There may be much good that comes from this. For instance, you may choose to adopt some of those abused kids. It wouldn't be easy to deal with all of their issues, but you could make a wonderful contribution to this world.

I've also learned that God is okay with my anger. I can scream, holler, and throw a great tantrum and God still accepts me and loves me. God wants all of us, our good feelings and our bad feelings. God will not be harmed by our anger, so go ahead and roar.

Finally, remember that when we pray God has three possible answers: 1) yes, 2) I'm working on it--it will take a while, and 3) I have something better planned for you.

I will keep you in my prayers--and your doctor as well.

Answer 5

I know you are going to get tons of answers that will be discouraging and skeptical, but the one thing you should always remember is that God loves you.

I'm not God, but let me put a few spins on things... just because you can't bear children doesn't mean you can't be a mother. There are millions of children that are without parents worldwide... can you imagine what they are asking themself? Why don't I have anyone who loves me? Why don't I have parents?

This could be God wanting you to take a look at another possibility of having children in your life and providing for a child who otherwise would grow up unloved.

Also, I have seen some of the greatest stories come out of suffering... God may be calling you to somewhere down the road provide council and love to someone in the same position and pain you are currently experiencing now.

My last comment, will sound cruel, without that intention at all. If you are a Christian, you live for Christ and not for yourself. I am in no way saying that desiring children is selfish, but have you been in fellowship with God surrendering the thought of ever bearing children? Have you placed this situation in His hands and allowed Him to have your faith in this or is this all about you?

Honestly, I know that it's near impossible to leave everything in His hands, but that is where your faith and trust come in. If it's not in His plans, he might have a greater purpose for your life. Seek Him with all your heart and tell Him how you are feeling. If you do not have a faith in Christ, then this will be one of the first things you need to do before being able to grow your relationship with Him.

I will keep you in my prayers. Please feel free to email me if you wish to discuss this further.

Answer 6

God didn't DO anything to you. You're own way of living your life has a lot to do with it. And not every woman can bear children. I had a hysterectomy 4 years ago and it was a very good choice for me.

It's not up to you how someone else treats their children but I do agree with you on that one.

I can't tell you why.

Yes, He did say that if we ask, we will recieve but we have to ask with right motives, believing in His choices for us.

I'm sorry this is happening to you but it isn't God's fault.

Answer 7

Everything works for good for those who love God. You are just going through fire but remember you are coming out gold! Put on the whole armour of God (read Ephesians 6:11-20). Don't blame God for anything and thank Him for allowing you to go throught this....this is how He strenghtens us and he shows us His power. I will be praying for you and remember even if you do get a hysterectomy....NOTHING is impossible for God. I heard of a testimony of a man that had no eyes (he had lost them in a fight), the pastor was preaching of how God can and will heal. This man wanted the pastor to pray for him (in the middle of the preaching...kind of unusual) and the whole church prayed and for the Glory and honor of our God, God put new eyes! He could see! Bless the Lord! This is the God we serve...NOTHING is impossible! Keep your faith and praise Him.

Answer 8

Just because you can not have children born of your womb, does not mean you can not have children. There are many alternatives, like adoption. Just think of the kind thing you will be doing by adopting a child from a poorer country or the child of a unprepared mother. Remember that there is nothing wrong with you, that we are enslaved to chance, odds, probabilty. We all can get unlucky, it's not personal, take unfortunate experiences as an opportunity to improve and get stronger. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

If you want children only of your own body, maybe He is trying to point you in another direction. That's assuming He is trying to have a say in it at all. God is not doing anything to you it is your body that is in need of medical treatment. Sometimes life is like that.

Have you thought of volunteering at a boys/girls club or being a foster parent? You can still be a good role model for children, esp. by showing them to persevere through hard times (and with God's help)

You don't specify in what way people who have kids get blessed by God other than that they have children...perhaps it isn't what you are seeing as an outside viewer...they may have other problems.

You need to see yourself as a worthy person and to put your health first. If God means you to have children, you can try adoption, foster parenting, lots of other things. Ask Him to help you with those outlets.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

I know it must be painful and you have my commiseration. Perhaps it is your role this time around however not to parent children on your own? Maybe it is one of those things where if you did conceive, your children would have severe problems. (yes, genetics does work that way)
Have you ever considered adoption? I know perhaps you might think you can never love another like your own, but so many parents have discovered that is not true.
I too ask for things many times and the hard answer is NO. Now is the time for you to make your own decisions..check out adoption for the love of children..good luck!