Is a lab created diamond okay for engagement/wedding ring(s)?

Question

We have a great relationship, just not alot of money.

Answer 1

It's fine. Just make sure it's in a real gold setting.
And don't get one that's 7 carats. It's not believeable when you're poor. :) And don't tell anyone.

Why is it that people freak over a lab diamond? We don't seem to question about a lad ruby or sapphire. And this thing about them not being good enough to become engaged with. Geez-oh-pete. It's the commitment NOT the ring! There are some people who get engaged and even married without a ring. Does that make their relationship less??? I think NOT.

To keep it clean, put some rubbing alcohol in a pill bottle, put the ring inside, give it a few shakes. When all the yuck settles to the bottom, rinse the ring with cool water. It WILL sparkle. I have a coupel CZ cocktail rings. No one has ever asked if they're real. And being a wedding minister, I'm sure they wonder. I let them. :)

Here's a couple VERY reputable places.
http://www.czjewels.com/

http://www.ziamond.com/?OVRAW=cz%20jewelry&OVKEY=cz%20jewelry&OVMTC=standard

Answer 2

Have you ever seen the movie Wild Horses Can't Be Broken? In the end this man proposes to the girl, kneels down and does such a sweet proposal. He says "It's just tin and glass, when things get better I'll get you a real one". I think, even though it was a movie, that it was so sweet. Men who want to marry you and maybe can't afford a ring shouldn't be told that they are cheap and shouldn't propose, that's rediculous. Get a ring you like, marry the man you love, when raises come and money is better you can get a dream ring! I think that's why they have those three year anniversary rings with the three diamonds....not everyone can get a ring, a lot of younger couples have a simple ring and a tiny diamond...boys, size does not matter in this case. The love and the relationship is more important than a huge expensive diamond. A gift of a nice ring later is always great but don't break the bank now, it won't help the marriage.

Answer 3

I agree with MsLouMaria. At one time, I would have only wanted a mined diamond. Now that I know how unreliable the Kimberley Process is, though (that's the process that is SUPPOSED to keep blood diamonds off the market, but it doesn't always do it successfully), I wouldn't want a natural diamond. I'd be just as okay with a CZ as a lab-created diamond, though, especially if it was of good quality. I mean, man made is man made, right? Be careful what you're actually buying, though - it is difficult to actually make a diamond in a lab, and diamonds that are gem quality are usually yellow or blue. Colorless gems are rare, and expensive. Many manufacturers that actually sell "lab created diamond simulants" will come up if you Google "lab created diamonds." These simulants are NOT actual lab-created diamonds, they are merely good cubic zirconias. Some of the companies that sell these CZs are Diamond Nexus Labs, Russian Brilliants, and Better Than Diamond (they sell the Asha, a popular diamond simulant).

Answer 4

Of course it's ok... some people don't even get diamond rings because they prefer another stone or they don't have the money to buy a real diamond. It's the meaning of the ring that counts... an engagement ring is a symbol of your commitment to each other. It also tells the world you are seriously taken without you having to tell them. I have seen alot of lab created diamonds and they are beautiful, but if you are wanting the look of a real diamond don't go to big or people will assume it's fake because everyone knows how much diamonds cost.

Answer 5

A lab diamond is not only okay, it is better, because you don't have to look at it and wondered who has suffered for you to have that ring (check out www.globalwitness.org and amnesty international). Engagment rings with diamonds only became widely popular after around 1939, when they were promoted heavily as such in a DeBeers advertising campaign. Having a monopoly on the diamond industry, DeBeers has been able to control the market on diamonds so that these otherwise worthless rocks (contrary to belief, they are neither rare nor intrinsically more valuable than any other rock, and as soon as you have purchased them they lose all value other than sentiment--ask anyone who has tried to resell a diamond).

Many people get stones other than diamonds for engagement rings and they are often less expensive. Princess Diana had an enormous sapphire. If you are interested in another gem, look at things like sapphires and rubies or other hard stones. Don't look at emeralds, opals or pearls if the ring will be worn daily because they are softer and can chip and break easily (per my jeweler).

What I think is better than any of these is to look around for an antique ring. You can find rings from the 1900's to the 1960's that are in good shape, and are better made and cheaper than modern rings. I think they are also more romantic. For the styles check out www.faycullen.com (although the prices are high, you can probably find similar things much cheaper at local jewelry/antique dealers). Definitely look locally for antiques because the prices are much higher online. Congratulations!

Answer 6

It totally depends where your priorities are. If my husband had proposed with a cubic zirconium ring, it would not have changed a thing because to me, it is not about the ring he gives me, it is about the love and the solidness of the relationship.

Some people go without a ring altogether, and put the money towards a downpayment on a house.

On the other hand, I know some people who are very caught up in the value of the ring, and compare stone size, quality, cut, etc. If you are like that, you won't be happy with a lab diamond!

Answer 7

I think that's perfectly ok. You dont have to have the same as everyone else anyway. In fact, I had my eye on a pink sapphire ring that I told my husband that I wanted as my engagement ring, too bad it was actually more expensive than a diamond! Haha!

Answer 8

Any ring you like is okay for the engagement/wedding ring! It's your wedding/marriage and a symbol of your love and committment- it could be a tattoo or a simple gold band, as long as the meaning behind it is the same, it shouldn't matter.

Answer 9

All the answers are correct so far, I was in the same boat. I wanted a really rich emerald for my engagement ring, and they can be as expensive as the real ones (just so you know) But as i was talking to the jeweller that made mine, he told me that a fake gem has no value, and will never have any real value. Whereas a real one appreciates in time, and that is what made my decision. He was correct.

By the way i bought my engagement ring for $600 he reduced it for me from $1200, as he gets a lot of youngsters in his store, wanting to get married.....

Answer 10

It's your engagement ring so therefore, if you think it's okay, then it is ok. I would say do it and then once you have more money go out and get it replaced with a real diamond.