I posted a question a while back about purchasing a prom dress instead of a "real wedding dress". I tried the dress on for my fiance the other night (I don't follow that tradition). I got no reaction. I would take it he doesn't like the dress. What do you think?
2007-01-31 07:56:23 · 16 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sweetie i was in the same boat as you...he didn't see it on me in person but he did run across the pics my mother took of me in the dress shop wearing the dress...he said he just didn't like the dress cuz i didn't look happy in it. Is this the dress you really want with all your heart? its not the dress its how you carry it and if you truly love that dress then you should wear it on your wedding day. He won't care what you are wearing in the end just how to get off of you. He is going to remember your happiness and that's what truly counts.
2007-01-31 15:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hailey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave you no reaction and you are worried and analyzing it, you guys need to work on your communication. This is way more important than the dress. Before you get married, you both need to be secure in the knowledge that you can freely express your feelings and opinions, and that your partner will express theirs.
If you say "I don't mind" you need to mean it. If he says "I like it" he needs to mean it. If you don't say anything, you had better not mean "no" and if he has no reaction, it should not mean "I don't like it."
If you want to have a successful marriage, you both need to be able to communicate clearly, and take what the other person says at face value. You will never be able to read each other's thoughts, so you have to talk about them!
In terms of the dress - ask him straight out, and see what he says.
2007-01-31 17:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is the exact reason why you should not show it to him before the wedding day. I think when its built up and the first time he sees you is when you walk down the aisle makes it more special. He will anticipate it all day and when he sees you for the first time in that beautiful dress, that image will be burnt into his mind forever!!!! Maybe he is wanting you to wear something more "wedding" rather than "prom"...he's probably already been to prom, ya know??
2007-01-31 16:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he knew you were trying on THE dress? Or was he playing his video game or watching the game on TV?
ASK him if he liked the dress or would he prefer something different. Or if he even noticed. Fact is, most guys just want you to like it, and wouldn't be able to describe it in any way, other than color, perhaps, and how beautiful you looked wearing it!
Good luck!
2007-01-31 23:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married soon too- and I've tried asking my fiance what kind of dress he would like to see me in. He says he's not the one to ask fashion adivce from. I've shown him pictures of what I like, and had him show me pics of what he likes. In the end, I will get what I feel most beautiful in- after all it's YOUR wedding, and your dress, and if you don't feel like the most beautiful you've ever looked, then it's just not right.
2007-01-31 16:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that means he doesn't like the dress. Sit him down and ask him what his opinion is and that he needs to be honest. If he doesn't like the dress, try not to take it personally. At least you know now and you have time to get something else.
2007-01-31 16:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't show your fiance your dress, it is bad luck. It also spoils the surprise. If I were you I would take the dress back, get another dress and keep it under wraps.
2007-01-31 19:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by ORANGE JET 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when there is no reaction whatsoever, that is a bad sign.It probably means that he does not like the dress. You need to talk to him about it and find out exactly what he thinks or does not like about the dress.
2007-01-31 16:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't want to say anything and have to lie to you about it. I would definately talk to him about getting a real wedding dress. Maybe that is what he wants you to do.
2007-01-31 16:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tedo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just isn't one for showing emotion. Men express themselves differently from woman. Most of us are all about excitement and showing our feelings, men not so much. I wouldn't take it personally. Now if he came right out and said he didn't like it then I would get upset.
2007-01-31 16:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋