ok... so a little background. My best friend and I are both in our late 20's. I met a guy about a month ago and began dating him. Only problem... long distance relationship. I live in NY he lives in CT. He is in his 30's. This past weekend he and my best friend were both in town. We all got together for the weekend. It was great. Until my best freind started having feelings for him. Then he and I talked monday and he decided the long distance thing wasn't going to work. He and the best friend have been talking and I think they are now seeing eachother. The problem... I love my best friend and I still like him. I told her it was ok. But it's really not... What do I do?
2007-01-31 07:50:21 · 21 answers · asked by toocurious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tough situation there, but i don't think there is anything you can do about it, sometimes you just have to go along with the ride and see how things goes, if you tell your best friend, I don't think it will stop her from dating him, true love is hard to find and so is best friends.
Good luck
2007-01-31 09:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by duckyng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is this.. If you weren't ok with the situation you should have said so in the beginning, but seeing as you lied and said it was ok, although you knew it wasn't, what's left to do now is sit down and talk to your best friend and explain the way you are feeling towards the guy. It will be difficult because your best friend is now the one getting the attention, but what you need to do is simply put the cards down on the table and let your best friend know what's up, you really can't keep those type of thing bottled up, otherwise it'll just bring you down at one point or another.
It will be hard at the beginning since you say you love him, but you just need to put it behind you and find something that will get your mind off of him, because if you look at things the way I do, there's no point in trying to pursue a feeling that's not mutual. I'm sure your best friend will understand and the two of you will come up with something that will work for the best, both on your side and your friends side.
Always confront things will the truth, it will lighten the problem and help you come up with a solution. I wish you the best :)
2007-01-31 08:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by ☆Karma☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Your friend did nothing wrong and neither did he. They have feelings for each other. Nothing wrong there. If he's interested in her, why do you want him anyway. You told her it was ok so at least she cared to ask. You should talk to her and tell her how you feel. Really doesn't matter though, even if she breaks if off with him, you would be a crappy friend to see him after her. It's all messed up now. Be friends with her, forget about him. Move on.
2007-01-31 07:56:29 · answer #3 · answered by blwileygp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her the truth. it doesn't seem like there is anything you can do to keep the guy but you can still keep your friend. if she is a good friend she will understand your feelings and stop seeing this guy. friends are worth so much more than guys anyway. a good friend would but your relationship before her relationship with a guy she has know for a couple weeks.
2007-01-31 07:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two ways of looking at it:
1.That she clearly isn't your best friend and he isn't a guy worth having. Getting over him should be easy; but you may want to reassess whether or not she really is your best friend.
2. If you want him, go get your man! She obviously didn't show any regard for your feelings.
2007-01-31 07:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by A J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to talk to your "best" friend. Let her know how you feel. Its not worth choosing a guy over your best friend. A good friend is hard to find these days.
2007-01-31 07:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend, is not really a best friend. She sucks. Get over both of them. I know it's hard. But you have to rid the negative people from your life. They're both hurting you, and shutting you out. Do the same to them
2007-01-31 07:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your friend and tell her how you feel. Either that or you can try to find someone else closer to home that can take care of you. Maybe your friend will respect your thoughts and leave the guy alone until you are completely over him.
2007-01-31 07:55:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lixender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you do not appreciate him telling you it wasn't going to work because of the distace when that wasn't the truth. you are a big girl and can handle being broken up with. Now you need to think about if you want to maintain a friendship with her because she obviously doesn't value your firendship. If you decide to still be frinds with her let her know you do not appreciate what she did and that she will have to regin your trust back.
2007-01-31 07:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you will need to find something new. Don't judge your friend till you have talked to her, or confirmed that they are indeed seeing each other.
If she is you friend, she should fess up to seeing him.
The best thing you can do is find someone closer to you. Socialize with people and do what ever it is you do so well. The rest will work itself out.
2007-01-31 07:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋