I live about 200 miles from my family, and I dont drive so I have to travel by train when I go and visit.
The problem I have is that my Sister is expecting her second baby at the end of August and my Brother`s first is due 3 weeks later.
I cannot afford to get the train there for both births, and I missed my sisters first and felt guilty about that, so I`d love to be there for the second, but as it is my Brothers first, I feel like I should be there too.
As much as I have begged them to try and meet in the middle and give birth together, I doubt its likely!
What would you do, and would you terribly miffed if you were either my Brother or sister and I was not there?
2007-01-31 07:48:38 · 20 answers · asked by mrssandii1982 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would stress I CANNOT AFFORD TO GO TO BOTH!
It costs me over £100 on the train, I just do not have that kind of money. If I did, I would have no hesitation in going to both.
2007-01-31 07:58:17 · update #1
If my sister lived far away and couldn't afford to come for both...
I would say I love you, come when you can the baby won't grow up in three weeks. Or if I could afford it I'd help you with the cost or pay for it all.
If you can only make 1 trip and can't stay three weeks it makes sense to wait till after both are born. Cross your fingers maybe your sister will be late and your sister-in-law early!
2007-01-31 08:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Karrose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give up a few things and try and save the money from now to go visit them. This may sound a bit childish but when i really want something I get a savings tin that I can only get into with a can opener and put my spare change and a couple of pounds in it every week.
You would be surprised how much you can save between now and August.
Hope you make it for both births.
2007-01-31 07:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bajanqt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be there for the actual birth, do you? Go to your sister's, then make a point to see your brother's new baby while you are visiting. I would not get angry at you if I was your sibling - I realize people just can't do everything that is expected of them!
2007-01-31 10:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by perplexed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know this might sound abit daft but why did you move so far away?you could move closer that way you dont miss any of the births .other than that i would suggesed going in between both births that way youdont feel like you let either your brother or sister down and take them some nice gift like a hamper each (you can make your own for less)and that way everyone will be happy and dont feel let down.hope this helps and good luck.
2007-01-31 08:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I woulnd't be miffed at all, but then, your family is obviously different to mine. I hated having family around to stay when I gave birth - I was so tired I wanted to be alone and get on with it. However, your sister might appreciate your being there if she needs your help with the new baby - who will be with the elder child while she's giving birth?
2007-01-31 07:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go two weeks late after the second birth. Then you get to se both babies and are not showing prefernce to either.
Don't feel pressurised. It's not your pregnancy. It's not your fault that their timing sucks and they're having kids around the same time. Besides, I imagine that they'll be so busy in the first few weeks that they won't know what's hit them. Then I'm sure they'd love to have their 'aunt' around for some relaxing fun.
2007-01-31 07:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea: Ring your sister and explain that you cannot attend both due to financial difficulties, but you will try to go and see your brother's. Then ask your sister to ask a friend/ relative/ member of the delivery staff to video tape it, and then tell her to send you a copy.
Sorry if this not what you were after!
Good Luck
2007-01-31 08:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you make one trip home after both babies have been born and see them both in the same trip. I'm sure if you explaine the situation to your sis and bro they will understand. You can always phone and concratulate them that way they dont think you arnt bothered
2007-01-31 08:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you wait untill they both have their babies, and go and see them all then, If you explain you want to see them both but cannot afford two trips, I am sure they will understand. You can afford to spoil them both instead
2007-01-31 08:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by blue nun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd learn how to drive and rent a car for both the births.
2007-01-31 07:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Michael K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋