How Do I Tell Him?

Question

I have fallen for my best friend (a guy), who i've known for 7 years.
He got out of a 3 year relationship about 5 months ago. He seemed fine (he broke it off with her), until a few weeks ago he found out she's now dating his cousin! I wanted to wring her neck, he was very upset, called me up and told me about it. We talked and a few days before this happened I realized just how much I liked him and was going to tell him. But NOW, Im afraid I can't b/c of what happened. He seems to be himself again but said he "still hurts a little & misses what they used to have & wont have that again." I told him he would, but I wanted to tell him he could with me. But everytime I get the nerve to start to say something I chicken out. Im afraid he doesn't feel the same for me, though i get mixed signals. How exactly do I tell him I like him? In person? over the computer? What should I say?

Answer 1

if i were you i would tell him to his face and let him know the truth and how you feel.let him know that you want to be with him more then friends and see how he reacts to it.just be honset with him.honesty is the best thing.he needs someone to be there for him no matter what.right now he is upset about his ex and he needs to get over her right now.it may take a while but he will get over it after awhile.

Answer 2

IF he is truly over his former girlfriend, and IF you are not in danger of becoming a "rebound" lover, then try to discover a way to spend more time together with this fella. The more you can be publicly together, the more chance for something to develop. You will know when the time is right to step up the relationship, if indeed that is in the stars. Don't push it. If it doesn't come easy, leave it alone.

Answer 3

Tell him in person. You'll never know unless you try. If you are too shy tell him about "this guy" you like and describe the qualities you like about him and tell him that you've been friends with the guy and he just got out of a relationship and ask him what you should do. If he shows a sign of jealousy he likes you and let him know it's him. If he's cool calm and collected just say you'll try his advice.

Answer 4

You definitely need to tell him how you feel, if you don't then you may never know what could have been. If he doesn't like you in that way and you are true friends then I don't think it will hurt your friendship. You should definitely tell him in person b/c if you do over the phone or email its gonna probably be awkward the next time you see him.

Answer 5

i say give him more time..5 months is nothing you are still hurting and going through emotions and withdrawl.....i know that you think if you hold of you might miss the chance to be with him..but if you see a future with him then wait...even if he ends up dating someone else before you..maybe in all reality he is not the one for you..trust me on this..sometimes what we want and what we feel for someone.. is not necessarily who we should be with...because just think..you tell him you like him...(he may not be over his current flame)..you guys start talking and dating...he may not be able to give himself completely (sexually yes) to you because this girl is on his mind...and his heart belongs to her until he has completely healed...good luck..
honestly wait...

Answer 6

do it in an email. let him know upfront that you are terrified to tell him so you cant bear to do it face to face out of fear you might ruin what you have together, but you really feel that you have to tell him. then you can just spill your guys.

on line is the only way my bf and i can fight. we hate doing it in person and only can really say what we mean on-line (mostly because i cant speak when i'm overly angry or sobbing)

Answer 7

meet him in person. talk about his relationship and than say that u like a guy and if he ask who is the guy tell him thats u...

Answer 8

If you don't tell him how you feel you will never know if you had a chanch!