Just yesterday I broke up with my bf b/c I just feel like he's being controlling me lately. For example: I am planning on going to University of New Haven where he attends and I've tried my best to try and get into this University but the problem is that I didn't receive a lot of financial aid and now I have to take around a $12000.00 loan. Of coarse my aunt doesn't want to co-sign b/c it's too much money and I have no contact with my mother whatsoever plus my father passed away. I would rather wait to next year where I won't need a co-signer and would be receiving a lot more financial aid. Also, I have a situation where my father had left a large sum of inheritance money for me and my aunt is not willing to give it to me but she is willing to give it to me to spend it on something that I really need like things for the dorm or a laptop. My bf just became angry with me b/c I won't go as far as to send them to court to get my money and that's a huge problem.
2007-01-31 07:32:17 · 6 answers · asked by MaoAce7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not only that the other day I just found out that I couldn't recieve financial aid because I had to recieve extra documentation from my mother which of coarse was very hard b/c she lives all the way in florida and I'm here in New York. When I told him that I probably won't be able to go and would have to attend dowling for the second semester he tried putting me down by saying, "oh you haven't tried hard enough you should've listened to me. Don't talk to me, go away." When I told him I'll definately try for next year he says "No, dont come to this University I dont want you here by the way I never want to talk to you." I've been trying as hard as I could, my hands were on the phone everyday, always contacting new haven but he doesn't believe me. Not only that he wanted to brake up with me because I couldn't go. He doesn't want to support me in any way anymore. He always giving me his attitude and I'm always the one who has to try and alleviate his anger and not get angry with me.
2007-01-31 07:38:16 · update #1
It's not fair how he's treating me. So what I did was I broke up with him yesterday and told him that he wanted it to happen that I was doing him a favor. I hung up the phone and he hasn't called ever since yesterday. what should I do should I not talk to him, at all until he changes? Is there any other thing I could do?
2007-01-31 07:41:00 · update #2
wow,there is so many things going on in your life.your boyfriend shouldn't be acting like that ,that's to mean an yes he needs to understand .but if he doesn't you don't need a guy like that putting pressure on you ,if hes not going to help you out and frustrate you you don't need him.Take care of the other important things instead.Hes going to realize what he did later and to get back with you he needs act right,or else get a guy you can understand you ,and be a gentlemen not a jerk,that's very I'mmature of his part and im sorry for all those bad things going on right now.it cant get worse than that be strong and it will pass.
2007-01-31 07:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a little controlling. What are his motives? Why does he want you to sue? Is your family being bit chy about it or do they always look out for your well being?
It all depends on what YOU want to do. So you want to do something different, there is NOTHING wrong with that. You are your own person, you know what's best for you in your life.
2007-01-31 07:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex was probably angry just because he loves you so much and wants to be with you. still, you can't help what situation you're in, and it's not his place to step in and tell you how to handle the situation. if your boyfriend can't respect your choices and understand your decision, he wasn't even worth your time!
2007-01-31 07:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he can't understand your situation and will not support you then kick his sorry butt to the curb. You have enough headaches as it is and you don't need another.
2007-01-31 07:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is suck a jerk. He has no right to control you. It is OK to give friendly advice but seriously
2007-01-31 07:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he is. he should be supportive of you! plus, you don't need that extra stress hes causing
2007-01-31 07:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by hivesandhoney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋