Is it bad to go wedding dress shopping with your fiance?

Question

I am personally not doing the traditional wedding dress shopping. I'm going to partake in the "running of the brides" bridal event by Filenes so it's the sort of scene where the more hands to grab your dress the better. Does this change anything?

Answer 1

I think it's a silly tradition - in this day and age - to "hide" the wedding dress from your fiance until the day of the wedding. It being "bad luck" not withstanding, unless you are a virgin (and that's rare) then the man has already seen your vagina - his seeing your dress before the wedding, well that's icing on the cake (pun intended).

Answer 2

Tradition says he shouldn't see you in your dress until your wedding day. But if he goes shopping with you and he gives you ideas of things he likes I don't see that as breaking tradition as long as you don't make the actual selection with him present and he doesn't see you try on the actual dress. But then again the tradition is just superstition. Do what you feel you need to do. If you prefer his opinion there's only one real way to get it.

Answer 3

I don't think it's bad to go shopping with him, but I wouldn't let him know what your final decision is. Leave him wondering which one you picked. Unless you just don't care about superstition or tradition, then do whatever you want. They say it's bad luck for him to see the dress before the big day, but I don't know if I believe that or not.

Answer 4

I don't think its bad if he wants to go and you don't mind having him there. But to many it is bad luck if the groom sees the bride in the dress before the wedding. And it kind of does take away the surprise factor of him seeing you walk down the aisle in your dress for the first time.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

You could do some initial 'looking' with him, but traditionally you would go with your mother and maid of honor...or bridesmaids to try on dresses. Usually men don't like to sit around long enough for dress shopping, and if they do- they aren't much for advice or feedback. Plus, don't you want to surprise him at the wedding with how beautiful you look?

Answer 6

I think its all about personal preference. I went dress shopping (with out fiance) and I saw 5 or 6 couples dress shopping. Maybe your fiance would like to be included.

Answer 7

It depends on if you believe in things causing or being bad or good luck. It is said that the groom seeing the dress before the wedding day is bad luck (as is the groom seeing the bride on the day of the wedding).
I happen to think these things are ridiculous. So if you want him to come dress shopping and he wants to go, I don't see what wrong with it.

Answer 8

It's not bad, really. It's just that most want to see their "bride" on their wedding day...wouldn't you rather it be a special time of expectation? My favorite part of a wedding is seeing the groom watch his beloved walk down the aisle - and the expressions on both of their faces. Why give him a sneak preview, know what I mean? (maybe I am just old fashioned, but it is my opinion!)
all the best!

Answer 9

I personally wouldn't cuz that part is one thing I'm tryin to keep a surprise, not to mention my finace is not the shoppin type! also, keep in mind that bridal shops are ussually for women and I say that cuz you may have employees comin in and out of dressing rooms with half-dressed girls waitin on another dress, you may have a girl who needs alterations or something having to unzip things or something like that, and while your fiance may or may not have seen you less than clothed (don't know and its not my business) I'm sure the other brides to be wouldn;t be to excited about him seeing them, or havin a man in the midst of their dress shoppin, so its not so much just about you wiht it as it is to be considerate of other brides in the stores, so I say no

Answer 10

Only if he picks out a wedding dress for himself that's prettier than yours.