your dating a guy but you love someone else but you dont want to hurt your bf feeling how do you let him know with out hurting him
2007-01-31 07:17:12 · 21 answers · asked by wackiejackie2991 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him. If ur in love with someone else and want to be with them, then don't hurt urself and miss out on that. There's no easy way to brake up ma.
2007-01-31 07:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by jayfrezzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should not have been dating if you werent over your previous relationship. Now because of your selfishness, an innocent dude gets to feel the pain. The least you can do is be honest with him and just tell him - there is no way to avoid hurting him. Learn your lesson and stop dating until you are ready and able to be IN to the guy your with and not holding onto a past relationship that didnt work out.
2007-01-31 07:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh, I know what you mean. But truthfully, there's no way to avoid hurting his feelings, I mean... just give it to him gently. Like, we've been together for (however long) and at the beginning it was wonderful, and you're a great guy. But since then, I just don't feel the way I did and I dont want to hurt you by pretending. You deserve the real thing, and Im not the one that can give that to you. Or something along those lines, he'll feel bad but life goes on. Good luck honey.
2007-01-31 07:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by roxiluv05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel and make sure he understands that your not trying to hurt him and that you have feeling for him but you love someone else. If he really love you he would be willing to let you go. To let you be happy even if it's with someone because he loves you. And if you have stronger feeling for someone else besides him it's better to let him know instead of leading him on and later on breaking his heart worse than what you will do to him now.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-31 07:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet_Carmel10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think either way u are going to hurt him, especially if he cares for u. i think befor u do anything u need to make sure ur love is real for this other person. it could only be puppy love and u dont really wanna play with ur bf's head like that. if u are sure of ur feelings then let ur bf go. there is no reason to lead someone on if ur not in it 100%. let him know and then let him go. good luck and God Bless
2007-01-31 07:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crap...if you don't love someone then don't date them. It's as simple as that. Break up with him before you date the other guy. Say, "John, it's just not working out. My heart isn't in this".
You don't date someone to not hurt their feelings. Look at it this way: you're lying to them at the same time. Do you think that's a good way to treat someone? No...be honest.
2007-01-31 07:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem but reverse it. I was dating my ex, but was in love with another girl. I thought it would be best to be honest, and she went psycho. If you are truely in love with this other dude, break it off with your bf, and go for him, if it's just a little crush don't sweat it. But don't tell the bf, it will make him feel like complete $hit. Trust me, I know.
2007-01-31 07:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by adamcookie28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to do this without some getting hurt..........Although I once introduced a bf I was tired of to another girl in the hope she would "steal" him away, so I would be free for another guy.
She did, they were happy , I got to play the martyr, the new BF turned out to be a dud......
2007-01-31 07:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, he's going to be hurt but staying with him longer while loving someone else is only going to make it worse. Break it off NOW
2007-01-31 07:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to make yourself happy. You only have 1 life to live and you don't want to be miserable all your life. The sooner you tell him the better so his feelings toward you don't get any stronger. Just let him know you have to find what you want for yourself. Who knows, he may be the one for you in the long run and he may not be. But.. you need to find out for yourself. If he truly loves you, he will understand that you need to be happy and he will want you to be happy. Just be honest!!
2007-01-31 07:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by luvthisgirl2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋