how do i get my ex to come to my b-day party?

Question

i know he still likes me, he know i love him, i know he afraid to ever trust me again , "we really belong together",all i want is to be with him ,thats all.

Answer 1

getting back with an ex is like this...say u get up in the middle of the night, go to the fridge, take a guzzle out of the milk jug, but its all curdled, rotten and spoiled..so you put it back in the fridge cuz 'it will be better and fresh later'....hahahahahaha

Answer 2

Well, I've approached this type of situation in two different ways at different times. The first (and probably most effective), you could tell him that you really need to discuss something with him, and ask him to meet you for a coffee or lunch date (therefore the date has a clear ending and you aren't stuck). If he accepts that, then you need to go into it with a clear idea of what you hope to gain. I would definitely tell him in no uncertain terms that he is very important to you and that you wish to have him back in your life, and that you would like the opportunity to regain his trust. One thing I've learned (really, the hard way) with guys is that they don't respond as well to highly-emotional conversations (ie crying, sobbing, telling him that he is the love of your life) and therefore most likely (*granted I don't know either of you) he would be far more receptive to a calm, assertive, and straight-forward conversation. If he will agree to meet with you, and things are going along alright, then you could invite him to your birthday party.

The other option (which I suspect you've considered) is trying to get him to come to your party so he can see how much fun and how pretty you are, etc etc. If he is willing to go to your party, then perhaps he is genuinely interested in being your friend or in getting back together with you. However, if there are a lot of unresolved issues, the relationship is likely doomed to failure. I'd say that your best bet is to talk with him first.

I think it is important either way to be open to being his friend, if that is all that he is capable of giving you at this time. It's been my experience that if you are able to be friends with a guy (after you've dated), you are more likely to get back together with him, and probably have a stronger relationship.

Answer 3

Trust is a huge issue. First, your question begs other questions...how old are you, are there others at your party, where is your party, etc. Bottom line, if you still communicate, you build that trust back up. It will take time, perhaps years. If you really love him, you will wait. It also depends on how the relationship ended. If he caught you doing something wrong, like cheating, forget it. Other than a booty call, he will not come back. Hope this helps.