am i a messed up person???

Question

at five i was molested, later in life my parents faught constantly and my dad was later diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, which explains why he was always a bit off and i never realy had a real male role model or father. later he became an alcoholic and my mom divorced him and i dont ever talk to him or see him so i cut him off and have no father in my life. after the divorce i ended up with a panic disorder and clinical depression which i later beat and overcame. but recently my best friend of 11 years is very involved with drugs

i now am over everything but of course there will always be scars. but i am very into philosophy, im compassionate and caring. i also am spiritual but VERY far from any type of organized religeon. and i realy cant relate to other teens and only like adults. however i do have other teen friends.

BTW im only 16

Answer 1

No! You are not a "messed up person". You are a strong person that had unfortunate events in life that made you grow up perhaps a little faster than others of your age. Despite the problems you were dealt with, it still seems you have your head on straight and you seemed to have sought ways to channel your anger/anguish (or whatever you may feel) through things such as philosophy rather than those things that can harm your own body as well as those that love you (such as drugs and alcohol). Remember, forgiving is indeed hard in life, but I have learned that only through forgiving can one be at peace....goodluck and stay strong!

Answer 2

Put yourself outside of the situation once... Typically, when people ask others a question like this, it's because they're reaching out for help. There's nothing wrong with asking for help! Hey, I've been there, and I totally understand! The biggest thing that I think that you need to understand is that mental disorders (for lack of a better term) aren't curable, and cannot be "overcome." I know this sounds horrible, but think of it like someone who has an addiction. (I can honestly give you perspective on both of these situations - I'm a cutter and a recovering heroin addict). Someone who is or was addicted to something will always be an addict... the difference is whether or not you can put the word "recovering" in front of it. It's been 6 years since I touched a needle, but I'm STILL a recovering addict - because I know if I ever came in contact with heroin I'd be a junkie again. I think you can apply this to people who've suffered tremendous stresses and/or mental disabilities. They won't exactly be overcome, but these issues can be managed. You may be able to handle certain situations, but not all of them. I certainly hope you can see where I'm going with this. If you want to ask for any clarification you can email me at ANY time, and I'll get back to you. I think it's really important for you to talk to someone, though. Anyone - your friends, your parents, a total stranger.... whatever your do, make sure you just lay it all out there!

And about your "friend" - I saved this until the end for a reason. Tell him (or her) to get some help. If he doesn't think he has a problem or just otherwise refuses, then drop him. It's gonna hurt him, and it'll hurt you, too - but in the long run, you'll realize that people aren't who they really "are" when they're on drugs, and if someone's being fake around you, well, then they aren't really a friend, now are they?

Like I said, talk to someone. Get some help. Don't be afraid to admit to having some shortcomings. And be proud that you've survived all you've already gone through. Good luck!

Answer 3

No, you're not a messed up person, quite the contrary. You've overcome tremendous obstacles in your young life and the fact that you're compassionate, caring and spiritual is to be commended. You may feel more comfortable around adults because you can relate to life issues at such a young age. Bless your heart, take care and stay strong.

Answer 4

I'm not an expert in medicine nor psychology (I've just got some knowledge and experience). In brief, I think your very mature and cool person. And then saw you're only 16! Based on first part of your question, I guessed you're in your late 20-ies or early 30-ies. Hey, you're more mature and feet-on-the-ground than myself!
BTW, I'm 38!
I don't think you have to vorry of anything (other than day-by-day existentional obstacles you'll croos with no serious problem)
That's just my uneducated guess, but I noticed other respondents share my conclusion...
Have a nice day!

Answer 5

Sounds like you're doing just great!

Answer 6

nope