My boy friend of 6months was detained by ICE officals for being illegal in this country, now its' been 21 days since that happen, and I have talked to him and seen him in jail. He wants me to go to Mexico with him when ever he gets deported. Ive been working for the Goverment for about 6 mths now and finally I became permenate, and I also past a case mangement test. this will allow me to work for the gov't, and recieve much more money than I'm getting now. His parents love me and are all for it, they want me to get married with him, but I have a feeling that there just being selfish because they dont care about everything I have to sacrifice, in order to leave and go to Mexico with him. and I feel like my boyfriend doesnt' really appreciate what I'm doing....so what should I do ?
2007-01-31 06:44:39 · 32 answers · asked by PiNa PaRa La Nina! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way, honey. It sounds like you have a bright future ahead of you. You worked hard and what you're doing for yourself is great. You'll meet plenty of guys. Don't go back to Mexico and get married. Don't throw away your future.
2007-01-31 06:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very hard dection 2 make. but u r lucky the relationship is only 6 months old. i also dont reccommend marrying after only 6 months. u must do what u feel is right, and do what will make u happy in the long run....not right now because moving right away would make u happy because u would be with ur boyfriend, but u want the happiness to last, right. so if u moved with ur boyfriend and u ran into money difficulties or other problems, then u wouldnt be happy anymore. but if u stayed with ur current good job, how will u feel in a few months from now?? how about a few yrs?? will moving away change ur future goals??
my advice is dont look for the quick happiness right now, u must consider how ur decition will make u feel in the future, since that is what will be affected most. good luck.
2007-01-31 07:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's illegal and wants to you move and live in Mexico?
You have a good job and you are thinking of leaving that for an illegal who you have only dated for 6 months?
Where is the question that you can not answer?
1)Stay right where your at
2) let them deport the border jumper
3) get you head screwed on tight
2007-01-31 06:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Mexico is not the best place to live. Why do you think people risk their lives everyday to get out of that country? Unfortunately, your boyfriend cannot come back unless he enters illegally again which will only result in trouble for you. If you marry him, he can still be deported and if you ever have children with him, you'll be left alone with your kids to survive here in the US. Honestly, it's not worth it. Move on honey, you deserve more.
2007-01-31 06:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't goto Mexico if I were you. You just became permanent, so if you really wanted to be in Mexico, would you care that much about your current job and possible future? Not to sound mean, but maybe he should have found a way to live in the U.S. with a temporary working visa or something b/c they are really cracking down on the illegal immigration thing.
2007-01-31 07:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by dcbossygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and just listen to your heart. Make out a list of pros and cons. You'll figure it out. There is nothing I can tell you because I really don't know you. If it were me I would have to follow career. Leaving the one you love is the worst but if he really doesn't appreciate you then what is really there? Did he even try for his citizenship to stay here with you? Think about what you worked so hard for. Do you really want to go back to Mexico to live?
2007-01-31 06:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself the questions: What kind of future will I have with this person? Do I love him enough to spend the rest of my life with him? If the answers to these questions leave you uncertain, then I wouldn't go. You could also make two lists: Pros and Cons for going. Whichever list outweighs the other is the logical choice. Be honest about it otherwise it will not work.
2007-01-31 06:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is that you stay where you have finally begun to experience some stability and acknowledgement of your skills. Would you expect the same sacrifice from him in similar circumstances? What is the rush? Why won't he let you experience your accomplishments and enjoy a long-distance relationship while you work things out? I would be very careful not to jump the gun here. They say, "Marry in haste and repent at leisure".
God bless!
2007-01-31 06:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 23:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by pour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have not known him that long. I don't think anyone is worth having to throw your life and the most important thing your family away for. Cabo is a nice place to visit but do you really want to live in that poor country away from all you know. I would wait a while, if it is meant to be it will be.
2007-01-31 06:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by jessicablakey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋