What do you do? Myself, I want to get ovet this, but whatever I 've done so far hasn't been enough. And he always hurts me, so much that he has made me hate him at the same time... Again, I don't know what to do.
2007-01-31 06:41:13 · 13 answers · asked by moulin.rouge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We 're not together but even when he 's sweet at times, he can suddenly change his behaviour. He makes me think he's playing around. Even though I have heard him saying he likes me.
2007-01-31 06:49:56 · update #1
Well, my advice to you would be to talk to him about it. You see girls mature much faster than guys do, so what guys think is mature in their minds, would seems really stupid and immature in yours, because you have already gone through that stage, if you know what I mean. Sweetie, dont think you need to change yourself for ANY guy. Trust me, I know. I was recently in the same situation you are in now. I felt like no matter how hard I tried, I was never good enough for him, so I would be constantly changing myself to his likings, and I was completly miserable, because it made me uncomfortable with myself, and the relationship wasn't getting anywhere, and I couldn't figure out why. I really cant tell you step by step what to do in this situation, in the end its entirely your decision, but I can tell you this much. If you truely do have feelings for this guy, then you really need to find someway to talk to him about how you feel, you need some proof in your mind, so you can move on if you need to, because you will probably never be able to move on until you know how he feels about you. It just doesn't work. Trust me, I know. Good Luck, and I hope to hear updates on what happens. I'll check back here soon to see. ^.^
2007-01-31 07:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's immature, hurts you and you hate him - why are you with this guy? How can you be desperately in love with someone who treats you that way? Are you just desperate to be in love with anyone?
You need to rethink about WHY you're in love with him because it doesn't sound like he's any good for you. You have to do what's best for YOU and only you. You shouldn't have to get over his immaturity - he should step up and be the mature man you need. It's not you, it's HIM. I'd recommend moving on.
2007-01-31 14:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when I was younger and ended up wasting many, many years on a man who treated me horribly. If I had known then what I know now, I would have gotten away from him and not looked back. I missed a lot of opportunities and happiness because of it. Do not make the same mistake with your life.
2007-01-31 15:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by sisterdynomite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in love care about the feelings of the other as much as they care about their own. THAT'S WHAT LOVE IS. Neither one of you is in love.
Get out of this relationship immediately, and be thankful that you got away relatively unscathed and chalk it up to experience.
As Mae West once said, " A woman (or man/ed) has got to have one or two bad men (women) in their life to be thankful for a good one". Get rid of him and wait patiently for a truly good man to come along. It will feel heavenly to you,
There is another silver lining to all this. Imagine what it would be like if you were married to this guy ......and had children!!!
Have patience, your day will come. I'm sure it will, and you be sure of it, too
2007-01-31 15:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Diogenes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start thinking about yourself. I really think you need to dump this guy, or he'll just continue to hurt you over and over again. It's not going to be easy....but it's also not worth the hurt just staying with someone so immature. So my best advice to you.......is to go your separate ways.....permanently. He may beg to get you back eventually....and if you take him back, you'll be hurt to find out he didn't change at all. Time for someone else.....he doesn't deserve you. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-31 14:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna be scientific but listen.....
The developin in a boy is much lesser dan a gurl's mind....Gurls mature faster dan boys ..so dont really think so much wen he's sort of immature......Try to handle it like .....talk abt sumthing seriously and honestly tell him wats bothering u ....and for immaturity ..boys will be boys !!
2007-01-31 14:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥*~Samantha*~♥ღ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok check it out dont take any of his crap if u are hating the person that u are with then leave him there is no point in u being there if he is just gonna get mad at u all the time and u should think in ur head that u know u can do better than a person who treats u bad
well hope i helped....
2007-01-31 14:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not enough detail. Hurts you how?
If it hurts too much (whatever he is doing) -- consider leaving him and getting a nice considerate boyfriend.
Sorry I couldn't be more help.
Good luck
2007-01-31 14:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then youre in love with someone who isnt in love with you?
or youre not communicating well or spending good time with him.
if it is bothering you, and it seems it is....talk to him about your thoughts and what you can do together to gain comfort from each other's actions and move forward positively. peace
2007-01-31 14:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I'm in the same damn boat. How the hell did we get here? I want to know this answer too.
2007-01-31 14:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥eLizAbEtH♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋