Sometimes my bf of 7 years hurts my feelings. I know everybody get their feeling hurt sometimes, but when I tell him he does not try to be understanding. Like, if I'm crying he would say" you need to stop crying" or " why are crying, I have not done anything". Most of time I cry because I'm mad. That's the type of person I am. He knows that. When he apologize, it seems he just say it so I can shut up. Later on in the day he would caome to me and say, Look baby I'm sorry. then he would hug me. At that point I'm feeling like he just did that so we can have sex. I don't if love me like he say he do? I don't know if he care for me like he said he does? What do y'all think?
2007-01-31 06:38:16 · 22 answers · asked by sweetmocha07031984 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well sweetie for you to have been with someone for seven years, and sleeping with this person it seems to me that the "I love you" factor should have been dealt with a long time ago. If you don't feel like he loves you this far in the game then you two have no business together. He should be understanding, it should hurt him, that he has hurt you. You shouldn't feel that he uses apologies just for sex, it shouldn't feel that way. That's not love. Making you cry, and then not saying anything, it should not be that way. If he's not understanding and considerate to your feelings now after seven years, then he never will be, and then you're wasting your time. It seems like him being understanding means a lot to you, you need a man who is going to love you and understand and change and genuinely apologize because he hurt your feelings and not because he wants something from you. Leave him honey. You have wasted seven years, but you need to get out now, you don't want to end up in a marriage that was doomed from the beginning or end up with children by this man that leave you tied down to him. Even if you have children, leave him anyway for both your sakes. The next time you're with a guy don't sleep with him, that way you know whether he's using you for your body or for your spirit and heart, good luck sweetie!
2007-01-31 06:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same thing with my ex of almost three years. he would always say "your crying again" or " great not again " and lots of things like that and i would cry cause i was mad or something was bothering me. he would never ask whats wrong or are you ok. i never thought he loved me like he said and i found out a few days ago that he said he dosnt' love me at all anymore which i dont' really care that much, but he said he'd always love me no matter what even if it's a little. he didn't care for me at all and it sucked big time. your boyfriend at least later on comes to apolagize, mine never did that. so there may be some hope for this one lol.
2007-01-31 14:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by cristie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow some thick skin, not ALL men are like this. One thing I can say is that if you are unhappy by the way he is treating you talk to him about it. If you say he just apologizes in order to have sex with you then something is wrong with that picture. You have a relationship based on lust.. maybe not even lust.. just sex in general.
The best you can do is talk to him about what YOU feel and what YOU want from him or from the relationship in general, if you are unhappy with it then simply walk out.. its no use putting so much effort into something that isn't going anywhere.
2007-01-31 14:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by ☆Karma☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is typical male behavior. They don't understand our feelings and they don't communicate like we do. You need to ask him to really listen and comprehend what you're saying to him. If he won't he's very selfish.
You could probably learn better how to deal with him by reading the book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray. You can find it on Amazon.com for $16.50.
I also recommend for you; "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, also at Amazon for $14.93 . This is an excellent way of understanding why men do some things they do.
2007-01-31 14:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when in relationship everyone starts to feel insecure perhaps you need to sit down with your partner and tell him what you feel as we all know its the best solution in a relationship to talk... try to be strong and not get upset as this can sometimes make a fella think 'oh god not again' they are not like us ,,, women are emotional at times and we cant help that.... i think by the sound of it you've both got to comfortable with each other and forgot what you was actually together for which happens alot especially when it reaches the 7 year itch,,,, If your partner cant accept that u need to talk then its time to look at what u want in this life with him or with out ,,, good luck hun x
2007-01-31 14:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by clubbinbabe30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend…I think that you should try to sit down and talk with him, then tell him how you feel. If that doesn’t work out then you should try to you should mutually decide what to do next; such as go on a break or if you are on who doesn’t believe in breaks then but, to tell you the truth he sounds like bad news to me. But that is just my opinion and i'm sorry but you two should talk it over and try to work on something… and if you think that he is apologizing just to have sex, then accept his apology but don’t sleep with him.
Good Luck
2007-01-31 14:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by ~Angel Face~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 7 years and you still don't know what kind of person he is? i think you have more problems than you think. it doesn't matter if he is your BF, even your own family, sister, brother make mistakes and hurt each other's feelings. so your BF is not immune to making you sad.
it sounds to me that you two are not open about your feelings to one another, unless you can do that nothing will ever get resolve. sure people do things just to get what they wanted, but don't you? learn to communicate more effectively, don't guess, ask. 50/50 is what relationship is about.
2007-01-31 14:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sam T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many girls cry for no reason, at least it seems like that to us, we will always try to take advantage of your weakness and use it to get sex. Sex is all we want from women. That's it! It's not rocket science. That's how god intended it so that the earth can continue to be populated. You are naked toys to us. Don't blame us, blame god
2007-01-31 14:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BF of 7 years!!!
Why doesn't he marry you?
Why go to the cow when he gets the milk for free. Wise up
2007-01-31 14:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by knightwing992000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some guys who are just too macho to show there feelings towards there partners and those are the guys who cares the most deep inside so he might doesnt seem to be an understanding partner to you but deep inside him he might be the opposite as you think he is
2007-01-31 14:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋