ok ladies, i have a question for you. my ex girlfriend broke up with me about six weeks ago because she felt certain things were missing in the relationship. i now realize that she is right and i also realize that everything she felt that was missing i also want in a relationship. if you were to break up with a guy and then say three or four months later you two start talking again, and you realize that he really has changed and that he changed for himself and didn't change just to make you happy, would you ever consider getting back together with that person if you knew that he changed all for the better and that he changed for himself because he wants everything in a relationship that you do?
2007-01-31 06:30:08 · 21 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course. Everyone deserves a chance to correct their mistakes.
2007-01-31 06:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always exceptions to everything even though in most cases people change only for a brief moment and then they tend to go back to the same behaviors. Adults are hard to change, even teenagers already reflect how they going to be when they are going to be grown. So most likely even if you can prove to her that you change, she still knows that you are not going to last. Now on other hand it takes two. Whatever stuff was missing in your relationship i am pretty sure is both of your fault and the fact that you both were irresponsible enough to not work or at least discuss your problems.
Take a try and see if you can get her back and promise her that you BOTH going to work on your relationship, not just you, because it takes two.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to make sure that you have changed. She also needs some time to actually see that. It also depends on what was missing. Sometimes its too hard to go back to something that really actually hurt you. It also depends on how long you've been together. If its more than a year, give her some time. If its less than 6 months its time to move on. Maybe iot just wasn't meant to be and you'll always remember this in your next relationship.
2007-01-31 06:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by hotmamagrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd probably get back together with him but only for being a friend just to see how he really changed. if he did change for the better then try the relationship thing again bu twhen he starts to act like he did before then just say well too bad you did try but you didn't keep up with it.
2007-01-31 06:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an ex is always an ex for a reason. if he changed his way for himself maybe i would consider hanging out with him again and seeing if he has really changed for the better or if its something he made up just to get me back....
2007-01-31 06:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, only because you should never go backward and could be
your lesson learned. it gave you some free time to develop who you are
becoming and you are not done, so time things are for only for
second and some are for hours, but maybe youshould try and see
now if dosen,t work then it was your lesson learned, and means
that you growing so you know actually what don,t want.
love is you and you are love that all you need to know.
2007-01-31 06:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I thought the change was sincere, yes definitely. It's not something you can tell her though. She has to see the change and that takes time. Good luck
2007-01-31 06:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation a few months back and we are now back together and it has been wonderful. so my answer is yes I would and it can be wonderful for the both of you as well.
2007-01-31 07:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Carla Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way..... if you lost your chance with me you've lost it for good. i move toward the future. but i have friends of mine who would take him back. it depends on the girl. if you want her back, SINCERELY tell her how you feel. put your heart on the line to get her back. if she denies, then move on with your life. you can't always depend on yahooanswers for help. sometimes you've just got to take a risk in love. some people succeed and some are not as fortunate. it's better to know you at least tried then to go on thinking "what if." good luck!!!!
2007-01-31 06:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps...sincerity is the key here. Are you sincere about your feelings for her or do you still have the emotional tie to this women? Once the emotions dissipate, will those changes be that important to you? Will they be real?
2007-01-31 06:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋