My boyfriend just broke up with me a couple of weeks ago just out of the blue. We honestly went from being sooo happy and loved each other so much to him acting all shy around me and he barely speaks to me-this all happened literally overnight. We both are Christians and he said that he let lust get in the way. He was also married before for 4 months and told me that he was scared and didn't want to rush into anything again. He wanted to make sure everything was right and that's God's will be done. So he said he wanted to be friends and see what happens from there. But how are we supposed to do that when he barely speaks to me-he's like a totally different person around me-being shy and quiet. So what am I supposed to do when I know that I love him and am in love with him-for who he is on the inside? What do I do when I believe that God's will is for us to share our lives together? I just keep praying about it and feel like i'm getting nowhere.
2007-01-31 06:27:02 · 13 answers · asked by mrenee0609 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Theres a time to let go and if he keeps giving you the run around then he must not be sure what he wants to do!!! So I think you should move on or if he wants you then he will come to you!
2007-01-31 06:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by sxycountrygirl19 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe in God with all my heart, but hate to hear "Gods Will" all the time. God has more important things on His mind then two kids making immature decisions, and making promises to Him that will never be kept. If he was only married 4 months that should tell you something about him, AND yourself for being with him. You chose to be with him, and no one forced you to. He ought to be scared, and you should be too. I think that maybe BOTH of you made the Beast with Two Backs, and GUILT is setting in, and you are both looking for excuses to make you feel better. I bet he has promised God he will never do it again, and you have said that it will not happen again also. Oh Lord get me out of this and I promise......Before you do any PRAYING, you had better do some serious REPENTING. I am only trying to open your eyes, and NOT tell you anything that will take your guilt away as this is something that you had better learn a lesson from, and remember it for a long, long, time while you are still young.
2007-01-31 14:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's never easy breaking up, but it does happen. If you honestly believe that you are meant to be together, it will happen, but maybe not right now. You have to deal with who you are as a person and find yourself and he needs to do the same. When and if the time is right you will be together again, or you might find the person you are supposed to be with and totally get over him. Give it time.
2007-01-31 14:34:55 · answer #3 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to see that you don't need him. Be happy and confident around him. Don't make it obvious you are going out of your way to spend time with him. Be open to going out with other guys.
He obviously has commitment issues due to his past. Him breaking up with you probably means his feelings were getting to strong too fast for his comfort level.
How do you get him back? I am not sure if Christian guys are the same, but other guys jealousy is the only way. Let him know you are dating other guys. Make sure he knows the dates are not serious, and that they were some one elses suggestion as a way of getting over him.
Good luck!!!!
2007-01-31 14:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell him that life is short.
God gave us all a limit on our life. He never said we were perfect, so we will make mistakes in life that we will regret.
He might have made some mistakes in the past, but its in the past. Its time to move on and take risks again. You need to remind him that he is human, and he needs to just do what makes him happy, and not be so scared all the time.
remind him that somtimes in life, you need to just open your arms wide and allow great things to happen even though bad things might happen.
remind him that without the bad, good wouldnt feel so good.
2007-01-31 14:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is his way of telling you to slow down. If God plans for you to be together in the future, you will be. For right now, however, go out and have fun. Enjoy yourself.
2007-01-31 14:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
date some 1 else
2007-01-31 14:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by CANDY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmph be patient since prayer will be your only solution to getting out of this situation
2007-01-31 14:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by spiritualism0 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember that he's your "ex" and move on. Sounds like he gave you every excuse in the book not to be with you.
2007-01-31 14:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by live75 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I know that you say you are a christian and all but ignore him and see what he does if he thinks that you have no interest then he will want you back, unless theres another that hes found , and he likes her better.
2007-01-31 14:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by sissy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋