I am weak....?

Question

I know I have been freaking out about the bottle and wanting dd off of it.( I just hate the bottles and I don't understand why she will chug water out of a sippy but refuses milk.) I tried to do tough love today by only offering her milk in the sippy, but I caved and gave her the bottle. I know I have to be stronger and quit worrying about it. Also, someone asked me today at a little gym class how old dd was and I said just about 14 months. She said "she is not walking" and looked at her and just goes " oh". I wanted to say ...... you. My pedi. isn't concerned she is not walking yet. She cruises everywhere even stand for a few seconds. my other dd walked at 10 months but that was early. People should keep their comments to themselves. Anyways, wish me luck. I now people say I am the parent and it is my decision to take her off the bottle, but it is easier said than done, I think. She may have to go a day or 2 without milk until she realizes it is only coming from the cup. thanks Debbie

Answer 1

it sure is frustrating when other people make judgements about your kids, it pisses me off too, you can't go anywhere without some old lady putting her 2 cents in, just ignore them, you know she'll be fine, the longer it takes her to walk, the less trouble she gets into in the meantime! lol, good luck, I was sad when my daughter refused her bottle, I missed holding her and feeding her, it's all perspective, I guess...

Answer 2

Debbie, I suggest throwing out all the bottles but one or two. Do not givver her a bottle during the day at all anymore. Only give her a sippy cup. Hand it to her , if she refuses set it on the floor where she can get it and walk away. Let her cry, even if it is for a hour. I promise this is going to work. She will take the cup. Only give her a bottle before bed. Once she is doing well without the bottle during the day then start weaning her off it at night doing the same thing. good luck. I think you are a great mother that is why you are asking for help.

Answer 3

Good on you for not worrying about what other people think. My daughter is 2 and still uses her bottle at bedtime. It doesn't really bother me too much but she knows that next week is the week when it goes in the bin. She also wasn't walking at 14 months, she started at 17 months but was steady on her feet from the offset and now runs, skips and jumps about. Her little friend is 3 and started walking at 13 months and she still isn't as steady as mine.

It's all down to preference and to be honest I think if you are firm eventually you will get her off the bottle. I remember trying to get mine to drink her juice out of the sippy cup. She went 6 hours without any and then just took the cup and drank it.

Carry on being a good mum and let things run!!

Answer 4

Something my pedi suggested about getting my kid off the bottle was to offer milk in a straw cup or just put it away and mix formula and milk half and half or so until she takes it if she doesnt like plain milk as well act like you dont have any more bottles or just deny her the bottle and keep offering the cup giving her yogurt and cheese until she does for her calcium and things will work out every kid has their own schedule and will do things when ready so who cares about other parents and what their kid can do at the same age it doesnt mean that their baby is a genious and yours stupid its just how baby learns is doing and it takes time so best wishes on the milk war and good luck

Answer 5

Take heart in knowing all children develop differently. My first daughter was speech delayed and is now a strait A principals Honor role child in high school. She also wasn't potty trained until she was almost 5. This was hard for me but it turned out all right in the end.

I don't like bottles either. I did do tough love and just took it away one day. my two almost 2 and almost 3 fought with me about it but after about 4 days it was a non issue.

Best of luck. Some women are big B's. I have to agree.

Answer 6

Just offer the milk in a sippy cup and be sure to encourage her and make her feel she is doing something great each time she uses it. Also get a few sippy cups that are different from each other with neat things on them so she is interested.
I really suggest that you get a few. sometimes the taste of the plastic in some plastic ware can taste funny and maybe that is an issue also. Good luck!

Answer 7

My daughter didn't potty train as soon as I would have liked. She knew how to do it just fine, but just wouldn't. One day, after I stopped pushing the issue, she decided she was potty trained....and never turned back.

I am a big believer in giving them the means to succeed and then stepping back and letting them succeed.

When she drinks out of the sippy cup, give her all sorts of praise, even silly praise. Sing her the "sippy cup song". I don't know a sippy cup song, but you can make one up. When she uses the bottle...nothing (Don't ignore her, but don't act like you care).

And, when all else fails, remember that when she's filling out college app's, no where on it will it ask for "age switched to sippy cup", or "age at first steps". Good luck.

Answer 8

good luck with the bottle!! my hussband finally just threw all the bottles away to get our daughter to drink out of a sippy cup! and as for the other mother that was rude about the walking....pay her no mid! people seem to always think their child is the best and other children who decide they wanna walk later, or talk later are somehow less? my mother said i didn't walk until i was 17months old, and my daughter didn't walk until she was 14 months when your child is ready, they will take off! just try to brush these other comments left by mothers who think they are perfect aside!

Answer 9

it isn't easy but, it is harder if you go back and forth, i have had three and only one of them was off by 14 months, i didn't even try until i knew i would be firm.
People can be really insensitive and say stupid things, when my oldest was a baby and we were at the grocery store he was clapping or doing something simple and I had this sweet looking grandma come up and ask me how old he was, when i told her she said that her grandbaby had started doing that same thing two months before whatever age my son was. I just laughed.

Answer 10

If she wont take the milk for a couple days then give her some cheese so she gets her calcium. She will be fine. As far as not walking yet so what? She will walk when she is ready!! Dont always even concern yourself with others opinion.