How do you get a 2 year old to sleep in his own room?

Question

My 2 year old son will not sleep in his own room, he is very content laying under mommy while daddy has a attitude every night. We have near to no alone time at night. It has reached the point that once he is alseep we have to venture off to other parts of the house just to be alone. We actually thought it was cute to cuddle up with the "baby" when he was young, but we did not know that it would lead to this, we were fist time parents. Please help me undo this mistake.

Answer 1

I totally feel where you're coming from! I have a two-year-old daughter who has moved-in(her toddler bed is at the foot of our bed)our room! She slept with us(just in her own bed, either playpen, folding dora couch, or toddler bed)from the time she was born til she was 11-months old.

I would wait til she got sleepy(really sleepy to the point of nodding off)and sneak her in her room. I would creep out and leave her bedroom door slightly cracked so that she could come into our room if there was a problem and so that she'd have a little light.

She would have continued that way, but we moved to a new house and with the weather being as cold as it is, there's a cold draft that comes in her new bedroom and I felt that adding a space heater would be dangerous, so we let her sleep in our room.

Now that I've told you my life story, here's my advice:
Make baby steps. First, I suggest having him sleep next to your bed in his own little bed. Tell him he's a big boy now, and that's what big boys do. After he gets used to that, move his bed into his room(please note: This will not be easy. Expect to lie on the floor beside his bed for a few nights until he's asleep, then creep out). OR, you could just go cold turkey and start him in his own room, bid him goodnight, close the door, and keep yourself from giving in to his crying(this is soooo hard for us mommies)and let him cry himself to sleep until he understands.
Good luck!

Answer 2

i'm interior a similar situation with my 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous. i began purely putting him in his room, at the same time as he comes out, purely in a well mannered way take him again. He got here out a finished of 5 cases. After the fifth time, I advised him that he grow to be going to get in worry if he were given again out that mattress. I grew to grow to be the television on in his room and grew to grow to be the quantity down authentic low and advised him evening, evening. He fell proper to sleep. you'll purely ought to save doing a similar element each evening. she will be ready to ultimately stay in there.

Answer 3

That was your mystake. You got your baby used to sleeping with you since he was an infant. You have to sit down with him before bed time and explain to him that there is going to be a change: you are going to sleep in your bed from now on, and mommy is NOT going to let you sleep in her bed anymore. But they key here is to follow through with what you want to teach him. B/c he/she WILL test you the first few nights. If he comes to your bed, put him back in his bed and remind him what you said earlier in the day. You have to be persistant and stick to your decisions. Once he sees you mean business he will adjust to the new sleeping arrangements.
I mean, you have to do it for your relationship. You guys will be the ones who suffer. I mean, you can't have sex with your baby asleep right next to you. You have to be firm yet loving and stick to your guns.

Answer 4

Well, I am a mom of three and Ihave co-slept with all of them, you can bet I don't have 3 kid sin my bed now! I do have one, hes 4 months old and nursing still. You CAn co-sleep as a baby and teach them to sleep independantly later on, it just takes a little work.

Start by setting up their own bed and making a big deal of it. "Look sweetie, here's your new Spiderman (or whatever) sheets on your BIG BOY bed!" and play it up, let him help pick out bedding if you can. Then start by reading and TRYing to go to be there everynight for a few nights, see how that goes. But at LEAST complete the night-night routine in the new bed. After he is comfortable with his bed you need to explain to him "Sweetie, you are a big boy now and you need to sleep in your own bed" and put him to bed there after doing your routine. Walk out. If her screams go comfort him, but don't pick him up. If he comes out you need to bring him back over and over again.
If that fails, you need to sit on the floor in his room until he stays there and falls asleep. If he gets up get him back in bed, but don't speak to him, don't make ANY eye contact. Don't get mad. Don;t do other things. Just remain calm, pick him up and put him back. It may take 3 hours the first night so start oat a decent hour and make sure nothing else is planned. After a few nights the time should get shorter and shoter as he comes to the undertsanding that "this is my bed, I sleep here."

Yes it will be rough for a few nights, but the payoff will be wonderful!

I did this with my two older ones. My daughter sleeps in her bed everynight. My son doesn't have his own room till we move next month and we can't let him sleep in there with her because he keeps her awake and she has school, so he sleeps on the couch by himself everynight. We don't wake up with extra kids in our bed ever and no one is traumatized for it.

Persistance is the key, if you give in it will just take longer to regain conrtol of your bed and your night.

Answer 5

you know i did the same thing with my first baby, and she's ten now and still sleeps with me and there nothing you can do about it ,my second child i knew better i stayed away and only attented when i had to. now my third child is 5 months old and i am sleeping with him none stop. cause his the last