Shes past 30, never had a boyfriend, and doesnt seem to be getting close to one. She basically just mopes around the house all weekend long. What do you do in this type of situation?
I'm 12 years younger just to throw that out.
2007-01-31 06:10:49 · 24 answers · asked by wonderwhy2100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not a lesbian. She's the type of person who finds flaws in everything, and the whole world comes crashing down for the littlest things.
2007-01-31 06:16:45 · update #1
No, it's not OK to worry about your sister being single.
However, it is OK - and even very considerate of you - to worry about her being UNHAPPY.
In other words, single does not necessarily equal unhappy.
Try to come up with something you two can do together to help get her out of the house - preferably a recurring event (not a one-time thing) that forces her to interact with others, perhaps those with similar interests (assuming she has other interests besides moping around the house). I'd personally recommend volunteering together - at an animal shelter, for a literacy program, Habitat for Humanity or something like that. Not only will she get out of the house, but she'll also be helping to improve the world (which should boost her self-esteem) and might help her appreciate the good things in her own life.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 06:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your worry as to her love life, nor is it your business. Maybe she doesn't WANT a boyfriend for any one of a number of reasons.
The concerning thing is that she mopes around the house on weekends. She should be out doing things and meeting people, boyfriend or not. She should have some sort of hobby, whether it is photography, long distance running, travel, cooking, volunteer work, whatever. Moping around the house is not healthy or productive.
2007-01-31 14:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's cool of you to worry about her.Second, I'm not sure there is anything to worry about.If you are worried about her happiness, ask her! Talk about it with her and share your feelings. If you are worrying that she will pass the prime breeding window, look at the calendar. Your question reminded me a little of the old movies where the nosy mothers are gossiping and they mention "the Smith girl,past thirty, no man,she's going to end up a spinster."Thankfully, those days are gone where women's role was primarily to make babies and a woman who didn't was somehow considered less than. I'm not saying you are, it just reminded me.
So I say ask. Either she will tell you that she's lonely and wishes she had more friends and blah,blah, or that no, she's cool and is satisfied with how she spends her time.Either way, it's always good to see sibs looking out for each other.
2007-01-31 14:25:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mike Oxard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is most certainly OK to worry about your older sister being single for so long, especially at her age.
I think the best thing to do in this situation would be to have a little heart to heart with her.
Tell her your concerns and see what she says. No one except for her can really say why she hasn't dated. Once you find out why she is the way she is, maybe you can put your worries to rest.
I also really like the idea about the makeover. That's an excellent idea. Sometimes women WONT date because they don't feel worthy or beautiful. It'd probably be really refreshing for her to have a new look & attitude about life.
2007-01-31 14:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am 26F engaged to be married and also have an older sister who does the same. Try to talk to her. Maybe marriage is not one of her goals. It would be one thing if she was consumed by her work, or just dedicated to her career, but it sounds like she may be withdrawing and could even be depressed. Try to offer her advice and ask her if she could maybe have a little depression going on. IF she does, she is probably too embarrassed to tell you, but I bet you a very tiny bit of prying would get you the truth. She is probably hurting inside or bothered by something and just wants someone to let her know it is ok and normal for that to happen?
2007-01-31 14:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to cheer her up...treat her to a day at the spa, or give hera makeover session so that she can rediscover herself again.
Moping around the house certainly isn't going to get her the guys, but you've mentioned she's never had a boyfriend...you sure she's not a lesbian then?
2007-01-31 14:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her life let her live it the way she wants to. Not everyone has to be with someone. Maybe she has seen people in the past and has been hurt and does not want that to happen again or maybe she is seeing someone now and you just don't know about it. She is the one that has to live with or without a person in her life when she is ready she will find someone.
2007-01-31 14:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by irishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for the younger ones to be worried about the older ones. As much as you would to see her make a change and do something, she won't until she is ready.
2007-01-31 14:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her why she is single? Have you asked her why she has never put herself out there. There could be a million reasons and it may be something you can help her with or suggest she seek therapy about. I wish you both luck and I am sure she feels lucky to have a sister who cares.
2007-01-31 14:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It is not your job to tell her how to live her life. If she ever decides she really wants to date she'll do something about it. Perhaps she just does not feel the motivation or the attraction to being in a relationship.
2007-01-31 14:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋