I started dating this girl about 3 months ago and we get along awesome, im outgoing and speak my mind so she knows how i feel. she's quiet and doesnt express herself about how things are going. we cook together and enjoy much of the same things. her last bf was 41 and they cross paths at work because they work overlapping shifts, im feeling insecure because she doesnt tell me how she feels. what can i do? she openly did say she doesnt really care for sex but does anyway. we have been intimate a several times and she stays at my house whenever possible due to our work schedules. she makes me feel young and im falling in love with her. too soon? she has goals and has a maturity level i havent seen in someone her age.
2007-01-31 05:59:02 · 25 answers · asked by Scot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her father did leave her when she was young but she does have some contact, and she has had a father figure in her life since he left, not paternal though obviously. we are supposed to be going out to vegas to see him this summer, we do have alot of plans together. I am sorry for not being so precise as the question but just about everyone has has good feedback that i am considering, especially taking it slow or slowing it down, maybe she will come around and open up. I will give it time! she does show affection and tells me the last relationship should not have lasted as long as it did. also concerned there may be a rekindle between them. i met her through a friend and we hit it off , right off the bat. alot of the answers here have made sense and just want to thank you. more are welcome.
2007-01-31 06:28:11 · update #1
The fact is that she is in love with you and she needs you.
But, do you have any idea about her relationship with her father?
Her ex was 41 and you are 33. She is looking for a father figure not a lover at this moment. She is craving for mature and experienced male.
That is why she needs to be with you because she is feeling safe & secured.
Yet, she is not into sex & that is normal; if she did not have a good father, or if she never had the love she needed it from her dad.
That does not mean she is not in love. You have to be really patient and give her time to feel protected with you, so she can open up her real emotions.
Sound like you care for her. So, be there for her and this is only a matter of time.
You will be both fine.
Good luck
2007-01-31 06:12:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too soon to be falling in love with her. Age isn't nothing but a number. Some women dont like telling men how they feel. The only thing you can do is let her know that you are there for her no matter what. I'm 22 and am more mature than most people my age.
2007-01-31 06:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, the two of you are in different stages of life, and the chances of what you have working isn't very good. I would suggest finding a woman your own age. A lot like a 22 year old man going out with a 16 year old girl, you have put yourself into a situation you will have to control. If you really love her, you will take it very slow, and allow her to go out and be a young woman, if it is real, she will stay with you. But if it just her seeing you as an authority figure, it will only last until she tires of being controlled.
she needs to get out and party, not be locked down with an old guy.
2007-01-31 06:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by gibson_slayer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's very young and perhaps does not really know what she wants for her future and is just trying to figure it out. She may seem mature for her age - but she is still figuring things out and may change as she matures more. Try to take it slow and wait until she figures out how she feels. The fact that she does not like sex does not bode well for you since at that age and at the early stages of a relationship it should not be a problem yet.
2007-01-31 06:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay well, if ur rich or well off run!!!! because she is playing u, 1 of my friends is 27 and his girl was 19 and it was just like that then she turned 21 and wanted to go out all the time and party then but she xspected him to buy her only the xspensive things and didnt let him see his friends then when she tuned 22 not to long ago, he took her to vegas and he spent so much on her she broke up with him and still called him for x mas presents and things of that sort, now she is with an older guy and prob doing the same thing
2007-01-31 06:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by CANDY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 09:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by hudrick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has issues!!! She is looking for someone to protect and love her as a father. She was dating a 41 year old. She is obviously someone that if you do in fact love you are going to have to help her. I know this might sound like psych babble but its true. When a girl is more mature than her age its because shes lived more than necessary this creates a lot of issues. Are you sure you want to live like that.
2007-01-31 06:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you're going a little too fast, but the age difference should not be a factor. You two need to work through the communication and intimacy issues, but otherwise things sound okay.
2007-01-31 06:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by gamblin man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have "father" issues. I would go slow with someone who tends to go for the older men, and doesn't really like sex. Seems to me that if she's been with older men, she should be liking it pretty well by now. It's the older men who know what they are doing. If she doesn't like it, it may mean she has some emotional issues.
2007-01-31 06:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Vivian D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no i dont think your starting to soon the only problem i see is that she aint talkin about how she feels.... i think that everyday when yall come home for work yall should have a conversation about like how yall day went also i hope ya plan works and thank you
2007-01-31 06:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by king_bisch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋