My hubby was married before he has a child from that marriage that he hasn't seen in over 6 yrs. We have a 5yr old together and I was wondering when I should tell her about her half sister. I don't wanna to tell her and ask to meet her knowing that isn't going to happen anytime soon. But I think she should know. Do you think she is too young to understand?
2007-01-31 05:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I thinks she has the right to know, but not right now. She is a little young to understand everything. As soon as you tell her she's got an older sister, she will be asking for her all the time. I think the right time to tell her is a couple of days before they meet each other (if they ever do).
2007-01-31 06:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children had a half-sister when they were born. I was always very matter-of-fact about it so that when they finally met, it was very normal feeling. All 3 of them were excited to meet and have kept in touch over the years. It was very cool. Don't make a big deal of it. Show them pictures. They think of it as a cousin or what-not. If they ask how that is possible, just tell them!
2007-01-31 06:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait til she get to meet her. If you tell your child now, then she will ask about it all the time and you will probably never hear the end of it. It's not going to hurt because when she does finally meet her, she will be happy that she has a sister.
2007-01-31 06:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by toothfairy.2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should tell her together. She may not understand every little aspect like we do, but enough to understand what's going on and what's happening. All she's gonna truly understand is that she's gonna have a "sister" to play with. She's not too young to understand, but she may be too young to care (about all the details). I wouldn't wait too much later to tell her because she may resent not being told earlier.
2007-01-31 07:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by CruelChick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she would be to young to understand.
I have a half sister and brother, my lil sis (age 6) doesn't quite get the whole half thing, but it's probably because we don't think of one another as half siblings, but full siblings.
My Mom had my older brother and I with my Dad, but my Dad passed away, later she had 2 kids (my lil Bro and Sis) with my step Dad, so my lil Bro and Sis are my half siblings, but like I said, she doesn't really get it mainly because none of us kids think of each other as half siblings, just regular full siblings.
You could still tell your daughter about her half sister, and if she doesn't quite get it then try explaining it to her when she is a bit older then.
Good luck, and great job on letting your daughter know the truth about her half sister ^_^
-Danny
2007-01-31 06:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're working your self up for no reason. Having 0.5 sisters isn't a huge relatives secret, and everybody has kinfolk they do no longer seem to be too pleased with. fairly of being anxious approximately your mom citing the sisters, basically communicate on your hubby - tell him approximately them and which you probably did no longer point out them because of the fact they do no longer seem to be an considerable area of your existence and you do not get alongside with them. i'm particular he does no longer care as assorted human beings have kinfolk they do no longer shop touch with and evade, or are embarrassed of. in case you particularly do no longer want him to be attentive to, basically ask your mom to no longer point out them in front of him given which you're gentle suitable to the project.
2016-11-01 23:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by pour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her until she's about ten or if there is a possibility they could meet one another. Don't wait until she is a teenager. That will just give her one more reason to act like a brat and blame you for ruining her life (DRAMA). You'll get enough of that without adding this to it.
2007-01-31 06:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lisa above, but I also think she is too young to know right now. This is certainly life changing information. I would take it slow and let her know in a couple of years. Let your conscience be your guide.
2007-01-31 06:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best to tell her now before someone else does! Besides, its not a very good idea to keep secrets from her! You want to be honest with her as much as possible and don't sugar coat it!
2007-01-31 08:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is way to young BUT you HAVE to tell her. I have a half sister and my mom didnt tell me untill i was like 14 and now im mad and trying to find her and i cant its extremely upsetting plz tell her
2007-01-31 06:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋