I am in med sku and my mum jus passed away and he wants me to abandon my family and marry him, leaving my country and everything behind.............. what would u do?
2007-01-31 05:50:33 · 16 answers · asked by mylangy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's going way too fast. You need to concentrate of school, and need to grieve for your mother for a while. If he loves you, he wouldn't be pressuring you into abandoning your family and leaving the country at this point of your life.
2007-01-31 05:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by gamblin man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would he ask you right now with everything going on would be my 1st question? Your defenses are down and it is a emotional time for you.
2 months is not enough time to really know a person and to see if you can live with him. Marriage is a life commitment and a challenge [I have found out] even if you know a person for 5 years!!! [like me]
Why not take some time to get yourself together. If he really loves you he should understand and wait. Ask him to just be there for you. How would he feel if he were in your shoes right now?
Take good care of yourself and I wish you the very best. God Bless!!
2007-01-31 05:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you. he would not demand all the sacrifices to come from you. "Anything worth having is worth waiting for." He needs to consider YOUR feelings. You have your future to prepare for. He may not always be there for you. If you haven't prepared financially to deal with that, where are you then? He doesn't have ALL the right qualities, or he would be looking out for YOUR best interest instead of his own. I don't know the whole story, but it sounds like the one bad quality that he has is selfishness. Be careful and Good Luck.
2007-01-31 06:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Angel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! Not yet, anyway! My experience with men wanting to move so fast is that they are hiding something they don't want you to find out about themselves. You should know him for at least a year before you should consider marrying him. That way any facade he is trying to hold up should fall by then. If he is still the same wonderful guy after a year, well, best wishes!
2007-01-31 06:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by fair blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to control you by manipulation. Do not marry him after only knowing him a few days, and definitely do NOT leave your family and country.
Sorry to hear about your Mom, but do not do anything rash in your grieving period. Give yourself at least a year before making any major life decisions.
Finish medical school.
2007-01-31 05:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell him no, sometimes in some other countrys the men can do what ever they want and women still cant do anything but house work, and + u dont want to leave the rest of ur family would u
2007-01-31 05:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by CANDY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't marry him. It's too early in your relationship to get married. I know that you have a heavy heart because of your mom but don't make a dumb decision to get married just to feel better. It only helps you for a little bit.
2007-01-31 05:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by lover4ne1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think ur family needs u right now because of ur mothers death so u shouldnt marry him and leave now.....if he wants 2 marry u then let him wait a little bit and explain to him y and if he is understanding n cares about u den he will understand and if he forces u to still marry him after u explain to him y u cant then think twice about being wit him......good luck!
2007-01-31 05:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
its only been to months. personally i think that's too early. you should think about whether hes worth giving up your family and country for. if you really love him and you want to marry him then you should go a head and follow your heart.
hope it all works out.
2007-01-31 05:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by claidifl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no. Wait until you've known him for 18 months, not 60 DAYS. Be smart.
2007-01-31 05:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋