I was involved in a church a few years ago and started dating this one girl.To make a long story short when she broke up with me I thought God was testing my faith and I kept praying for God to put her and I back together.Sometimes I would have a peace of mind after I would pray.I would believe that God was going to put her and I together.I was really strugling.I was ver depressed to lose her and I wanted to believe we were going to be together.Long story short I felt the whole congration knew what I was strugling with and I felt like a fool.I stopped going to church.Not because of that but anyway.I saw some people from the church recently and it was like they had forgotted about the embarrassment that I allowed myself to go through.After 5 years do they still remember?
2007-01-31 05:41:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No. They don't remember.
And what if they do?
They still care about you even if they do.
Are you going to cut and run every time you feel ambarrased and worry about what others think? Staying away until you think they have forgotten about it?
That is the wrong approach.
It is much better to face up to things as they are, and either deal with it or get over it right away, or you will be on the run from your feelings for the rest of your life!
It is good for us to fail sometimes in order to experience these life events that happen to all of us! We must learn to deal with these experiences properly!
I suggest you talk with the pastor of the church (counselling sessions), and become involved with the bible studies and socializing with the people.
Many people will understand your situation, and will be patient with you. The others that might not be patient, well, you have to learn to deal with those type of people too! The exercise in socializing with people will be beneficial for you!
While we must pray, we must pray to God for the things that align with His will, not ours. He is not to be treated like a genie in a bottle (rub-a-dub-dub pray, now you have to do this for me, just doesn't cut it).
It takes time to learn all of this stuff. Be patient with yourself too, and don't fear trying and failing. The only true failure is failing to try.
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2007-01-31 06:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy Dean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had a similar experience. He left the church he had been a member of for several years and started going to another. Almost a year passed without a word from anyone there. Finally he received a letter from his church asking him to renew his tithes! I don't think that anyone could convince him that this church was interested in anything but his money.
On the other hand, some churches that I have attended contact you if you miss one service, so it really depends on the church and where their heart really is.
Have a nice day.
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2007-01-31 05:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Weird Darryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well They Remember Something That Happened Two Thousand Years Ago, Thats A Real Good Memory.
2007-01-31 05:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by durango 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...Probably very few do remember.
...God has promised to meet all the believer's needs; a principle I have learned is this: that if I don't have something/someone right now, then I don't need it.
...Your faith, hope, and trust should be in Jesus Christ, who has promised believers that He will never leave them, nor forsake them.
...Your faith, hope, and trust should not be in the uncertainty of riches, human beings, or circumstances - these are uncertain and at some point will go away.
...I urge you to trust in Jesus Christ, and get into a good Christ-honoring, Bible-teaching church. Get involved in some kind of service to others.
...While I was serving in a church, God brought the one I was to marry along at the right time.
...May God give you grace - go back to church, trust in Him, walk with Him.
...Whosoever will, may come.
2007-01-31 06:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by carson123 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably have forgotten, if they even knew about it at all. You said that you "felt" the whole congregation knew. Perhaps you were feeling self conscience about it and assumed that it was an issue with those around you. I guarantee that if you went back to that church, they would welcome you back with open arms and would be happy to have their long lost brother back among them. I know I would feel that way.
There have been things in my life that I desperately wanted and had prayed for, but God will give you the things that are best for you. Even difficult circumstances turn out to be times of intense spiritual growth.
2007-01-31 05:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if people who you mention still could remember after 5 years. A year is already enough for a human to forget the whole thing.
2007-01-31 05:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Khamirul Bin Mataree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we do indeed have a short memory. After 5 years they probably have just thought about you and not remembered what you were going through.
2007-01-31 05:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jan P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would they remember you breaking up with a girl 5 years ago? I don't remember some of the girls my best friends were dating 5 years ago, let alone some random aquaintence.
2007-01-31 05:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by robtheman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The composition of a congregation can change alot in 5 years.
Even those who were there have gone on to new things.
You are yesterday's news.
Be glad about it.
2007-01-31 05:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but its not important now. Why not give Jesus another chance in your life? Try a Non Denominational church, they are usually very accepting.
2007-01-31 05:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋