My boyfriends parents are paying for the lunch afterwards and since we don't have alot of money they are asking me to send invitations only to certain family members but not others.The family members that they don't want to invite are sure to find out they weren't invited because the family is extremely close. And it just so happens the the ones that are being left out are the most gossipy!! I feel like I'm being put on the spot since it's my daughter's baptism and I know I'll be the one getting asked why they weren't invited. Is it rude to just ask that everyone pay for their own lunch so that I can invite the whole family? Help I need to send the invitations out today!!
2007-01-31 05:41:13 · 7 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We are inviting one of my "father in laws" sisters but not the other. And the sister we are inviting we are inviting her daughter but not her son and his family. I didn't want a big thing. The restraunt is a buffet that everyone goes to and knows the prices of. How could i nicely say on the invite to pay for their own families?
2007-01-31 05:57:08 · update #1
sweetie, it just is not worth hurting feeling over a lunch, why not invite all to the baptisum, then you, your boyfriend and the baby go out to eat, tell anyone that wants to join you that you are sorry you could not have a dinner, but you just could not afford to pay for everyone. or just ask in the invitations that everyone coming should bring a dish, all are happy then. good luck and GOD BLESS.
2007-01-31 05:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by reann4239 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your self a favor take what ever money you have and do some sort of brunch yourself. If your in laws are not paying you will get control of this event back. People forget it is not about who is paying but about the baby. There are many web sites and idea's in which you can make this lovely and affordable. Remember not everyone will respond yes. It is better to send an invitation. The party will be over quicker then the hard feelings between you and the people you did not invite. Remember you are the parent and you will be to blame for who was invited and who was not invited no matter who picks up the check...
2007-01-31 06:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a real shame to have a problem like this at a precious innocent babies baptism.Not your fault honey and try not to get caught up in it. The least said about it afterwords, the better.
You can be honest and speak your sweet little mind on this issue to whomever you need to that you want to honer the event and not all the baggage that it may impart.
You know WWJD~~~ means" What would Jesus Do ?".
I would send invitations to everyone and on the invitations that the babies grandparents are paying for I would note that. On the other invitations I would simply state ,Lunch or Dinner afterwords is "dutch treat" meaning , "pay your own".
It would be a good idea to tell your baby's Grandparents about this plan and your wanting no problems at this sacred time.
2007-01-31 06:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how this works as the church where my children were baptized, the baptism took place after the regular Sunday service, as for lunch Why would you have to invite any one to lunch. But if there is a lunch then every one is free to attend, I would think they would pay for their own , or if it is at a home then get sandwiches and cake from Local deli or supermarket, they make them for a bout $3.00 per person or buy the ingredients and make your own sandwiches, that will cost you about 60 cents a person with 2 or 3 varieties and a packaged cake mix. there is no need for you to be controlled by some one else. if you plan it properly you can do it on any sort of budget, There is no rule that you have to have a lavish affair . please email me if you want to do this for your self as I will give you ways and ideas to use
2007-01-31 05:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eesh, this is tricky! Are the parents not inviting certain, specific people? Is it because they have something against these people? Or is it simply that they are asking for only 'immediate' family to keep the cost down? You could invite the whole family to the Baptism and keep the lunch open to only immediate family, like parents, grandparents and, of course, god parents.
2007-01-31 05:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mo the treehugger! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know how family is, they will confront you about why they weren't invited. You don't have to follow what your boyfriend's parents are saying but expect conflict. If you want to invite EVERY ONE. that's o.k. & strictly up to you. Sure you can ask them to pay for their own lunch, but make sure you put it on the invitation clearly so they know & expect to pay for themselves without looking at you like you are being greedy & cheap for not wanting to pay for them, are you going to a restaurant? if so, you can put a message saying: "FEEL FREE TO LOOK UP THE RESTAURANTS MENU FOR PRICING INFORMATION" then leave the website info so they can look it up online or leave the telephone number to the restaurant, maybe they can call if they don't have internet access. whatever you decide to do should be fine, you are the mother & it's YOUR DECISION.
GOOD LUCK & HAVE FUN.
2007-01-31 05:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let these people have control of who should be invited and who shouldn't. Invite who you want and afterwards if the b/f's parents want to take you and him out to lunch they can.
2007-01-31 06:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋