Why would people who dont know you,decide they dont like you when they meet you?

Question

These persons take an instant dislike to you, by just setting their eyes on you.They even hate you for life. When given an opportunity to know you better they realise they have made a mistake.

Answer 1

Often times a first impression is a wrong impression. That is what is happening when someone doesn't like someone on sight. They are too quick to judge.

Some may judge on race, others religion, others may not like your car. There is no rational way to look at it. Some people are prejudiced, for many different reasons.

Suppose someone drives a 1992 Civic, it's a good car, but looks pretty rough. They drive it for the gas mileage. A businessman driving a BMW sees the Civic park beside his new beemer. Automatically he dislikes the driver of the Civic out of fear that the driver is going to bump his BMW. Later in the day he has an important meeting with the new owner of the company he works for - it's the driver of the Civic and he's a very nice guy.

Some people have a built in "protection" mode. Most of the time they feel threatened by the new person they have just met. Some people, who are positive, outgoing people, give off a threatening appearance not knowing that they do so.

Be careful when you meet new people not to come on too strong. You don't have to humble yourself, just be polite and only give your opinion when asked for it.

Dress modestly. Overdressing can intimidate people. Dress appropriate, but don't overkill. Save the really dressy clothes for special occasions.

Anyway, like I said, people are too quick to judge sometimes. Just be patient for the second chance to get to know someone.

Answer 2

They don't believe in "Don't judge a book by its cover" I have always believed in it. It is the plainer, quieter, not so noticeable things and people in life that most often get overlooked. People usually are attracted to the louder flasher things first and never take time to examine the quieter things, there is where I have always found the greatest treasures. I am happy I open the book and I am sorry for those that don't.

Answer 3

First opinions really do count- apparently most people make up their minds about liking or disliking another person within a few seconds of meeting them. It's a flaw of human nature.

Answer 4

Its called first impressions and you never have a second chance. So, depending on your behavior, how you hold yourself, how you respond to questions, whether you look them in the eyes, your attitude, all of it decides whether a person is going to like you within the first three minutes of meeting them.

And every person is different about who they'll like and who they won't.

Whether people like it or not, first impressions matter the most.

Answer 5

For most people it's much easier to dislike someone and believe the negative. It takes work to focus on the positive first, especially if you don't know someone very well.

Answer 6

I have found past life and karma plays a role in that.

Not always...of course.

~ Eric Putkonen

Answer 7

Sometimes, it's different spirits. (John 15:18-25)

Answer 8

Maybe you killed them in a previous life...or even ate them alive when you both / all were in the animal kingdom.

Answer 9

i know what your saying because i have done smilar myself, some people i look at i just know i dont like them i cant say why theres just 'someting' about them, but i am not rude about it or anything but i am usually correct with my instincts.

Answer 10

usually when i dont like someoen before i met them, i usually still dont like them after ive met them.

very rarely do my own feelings prove wrong.