Okay, no offense but looking for mature answerers here (I am in my late 20's). Monday night I met a guy, we hung out had a great time (spent the night, but no sex btw), and went for coffee the following morning. He asked for my number, but I told him since I had his, I'd give him a call. When should I call? I felt bad because I was distant in the morning, and gave him a quick hug and hightailed it outta there because I saw a parking ticket on my car LOL I'd love to see if he wants to get a drink this evening, but I get really nervous about stuff like this, considering I am just onto the "dating" scene again after a few years and not really looking to date so....any advice? shoudl I call? when? ARGH!! thanks!
2007-01-31 05:30:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should have given him your number and let him call you, then you wouldn't have to worry about "when to call". Women never let men be men anymore, and then we cry that there are no good ones out there. There are, but we are too busy trying to wear the pants and the skirt. At anyrate, why play games? If you want to see him tonight then call him. If he's not available then give him your number and tell him to give you a call to set something up later. Whatever you do, DO NOT be available the first night he calls. You've already overstepped boundaries by spending the night with him (sex or not) so take some time and let things evolve. Good luck.
2007-01-31 05:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait at least until the end of the week. Maybe tomorrow - then you waited a couple of days, but didn't call on the weekend. That way, you look busy enough so he doesn't think you're a weirdo and obsessed about him, but he knows you're still interested. I'd recommend you make a joke and tell him the reason for running out of there because he may be confused if he had a good time and then thought you were trying to flee the scene!
2007-01-31 05:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give him a call today!! He's probably confused with the way you left the next morning and just wants to know if you are interested. I know it's hard making the first move by calling, but evidentally he's interested in you or else he wouldn'tve asked for your number, spent the night with you, AND took you out the next morning. So what do you have to lose?? Give him a call!! You guys should have a great time.
2007-01-31 05:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by sepulfact01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, same advice i give all my female friends... don't seem to eager in the beginning, that will kill anything right there... you're already one step ahead of the game, if u were to have gone all the way your first night, there is NOTHING i could've told u to do to salvage that one, so u did good...
as for calling, you're safe to call now, set something up, casual, u wanna say something like; "hey, do u have any plans for tonite/tomorrow nite..." whenever it is that u want to hang out with him...
but on the other hand, u said u aren't really looking to date, so then what are we doing here?? lol... in your case i would say just roll with it, enjoy the moment and don't worry so much about the little things... you aren't looking to date (sorta kinda) so what does it matter what happens with this guy??
2007-01-31 05:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by shoei7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes call him!! 3 days is long enough like that guy said he prolly thinks u didnt have a good time because 1 u didnt give him ur # and the way u left in a hurry he could have mistaken thoes gestures so yea i would call him.. for sure he's probably waiting! :) dont be worried or nervous whats the worst that could happen?? he dosent want to see u anymore?? so then u find someone who does :) not that bad at all... dont worry im sure he'll be happy u called!!
2007-01-31 05:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him today. He probably thinks you had a horrible time and don't like him. You should call him now or today sometim and let him know you had a great time and you would like to hang out again soon. Make a date for this weekend and hang out again. Just don't put it off or he will move on thinking you didn't like him and that you had the worst time of your life. So you better be quick to call him.
2007-01-31 05:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you said you'd give him a call, you probably should.
Since it was on Monday, I would say that you're probably okay to call anytime between today and this coming monday. It's been a couple of days, so I think you're good. If you wait any longer than Monday, he'll probably think you arent interested.
It sounds like a perfect opportunity to call him if you want to go out tonight. Good luck! :D
2007-01-31 05:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mellissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a call right now tell him how wonderful ur night together was and apologize for the hasty departure and invite him to have a drink ur treat at a nice place not a raunchy atmosphere to show what type of gal u r.
2007-01-31 05:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 50 and married, so I haven't dated in years, but when I did, didn't play games wih guys. If you like the guy, call him and explain why you were distant. Why not make him dinner?
I'm a bit confused, though. You said that you don't want to date, but you do want to see him. How do you plan to see him without dating him?
2007-01-31 05:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him right away seriously he's not gonna wait around if you just left like that with no sex...you think im joking or being crass nope it's the maleness in us you can be the most sweet and understanding guy but if you just meet a girl and these things happened you'd figure she wasnt in to you and try to move on quickly (the more you liked her the quicker you move on)
i mean after all who's going to mope around and be sad about a girl they just meet? guess you gotta get back on that horse huh?!
thats just the view point good luck and cheers
2007-01-31 05:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋