You know it really angers me at the number of teens that are intentionally trying to get pregnant by either tricking a guy into it, or just being selfish and thinking a baby would be fun and not thinking of how much of a responsibility it is to raise a child. I mean look at all of the couples who would love to have a child and then you see all of these irresponsible young teen-aged and even pre teen-aged girls getting pregnant because of entrapment or negligence. This really disturbs me because I don't think that people who are having kids for all the wrong reasons should be blessed like they are and the people who do deserve a child can't have one. Ugh this really does annoy the hell out of me
2007-01-31 05:27:40 · 15 answers · asked by ** ME ** 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I AM NOT ANGRY AT ALL BECAUSE OF MY OWN PROBLEMS, I MEAN I AM NOT HAVING ANY PROBLEMS MY HUSBAND AND I ARE ACTUALLY TAKING A BREAK FROM TRYING TO JUST ENJOY OURSELVES AND OUR LITTLE ONE WE HAVE NOW. IT JUST REALLY BOTHERS ME WHEN YOU GO TO THE STORE AND SEE THESE YOUNG GIRLS THAT HAVE KIDS OR YOU READ STORIES ABOUT HOW GIRLS WANT TO GET PREGNANT AT THE TENDER AGE OF 16. I MEAN COME ON WHERE ARE THE PARENTS AT AND WHY ARE SOME OF US AS ADULTS NOT TAKING OUR RESPONSIBILITIES AND TEACHING THESE CHILDREN THE REAL CONSEQUENCES OF SEX. I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT AT ALL.
I AM NOT ANGRY BECAUSE I KNOW I WILL GET PREGNANT AGAIN SO THAT IS NOT MY ISSUE MY ISSUE THE FOR THE POOR KIDS THAT ARE BEING BORN IN THESE CONDITIONS AND HOW SOME OF THEM ARE GOING TO END UP IN THE SAME SHOES AS THEIR YOUNG MOTHERS AND FATHERS
2007-01-31 05:40:43 · update #1
LUVN U- Actually it is my business when mine and my husband's hard earned money gets taxed to death to pay for these children who are irresponsible. maybe you should look at what you could have done to prevent your daughter from getting pregnant at such a young age. obviously you weren't informing her of the consequences of sex and the responsibilities that follows as well. Also how did your 15 year old daughter get pregnant because I know that my mother knew where I was at, at all times there was never an opportunity for me to have sex with someone let alone fall pregnant. I think this problem is mostly problem with parents because they are the ones who should be educating their children on sex. And also not allowing them to run amok without knowing what they are doing. Sorry but your answer is the prime reason for this question!!! Hard earned tax dollars at work!!! Gotta love it!!!
2007-01-31 06:15:16 · update #2
I totally feel where you are coming from on this, it really bothers me too when these girls are so quick to spread their legs to create a baby when they themselves are just babies. I commend the mothers that did get pregnant by accident and are wonderful mothers who provide for their kid(s). But what really turns my stomach is when my husbands tax dollars go to those who got pregnant to try to trap a guy and it backfired in their face and now they are living off of the government, if you ask me I think the government makes it far too easy for some of these girls to just go out and get pregnant. I was a teen aged mother but was also ready to have a child in every aspect. My fiance' makes more than enough money for his family where I don't even have to work he wants me to be a stay at home mother which I love. I commend all those girls who are doing this on their own or with the father by there sides and are doing the best they can. And to the ones who are so young and think getting pregnant will be fun or just be something you can dress up and play with why don't you take a look at how much everything is going to cost and pretty much times that by 18 years to get a rough estimate of how much you are going to need.
2007-01-31 06:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just disturbing it's distressing and heart breaking as well. There are kids out there having kids with no clue of what it is all about. Many young girls have the idea that they are un-lovable and they only way they think they will find love is to have a baby of "their own" to love them. They don't fully understand the responsibility of raising a child much less have anywhere to live or the money to support a baby. So they go on welfare and wic, get free health care (hopefully they use it), and get assistance with daycare. Don't get me wrong, I don't begrudge anyone help, but it burns me up that in the year 2007 when there are so many forms of birth control and education available girls keep going out there and getting pregnant. And there are so many wonderful people out there that can't have children and want them desperately...it seems almost like a crime. But the fault does not belong just on the girls...the boys are wrong as well. Any reasonably intelligent young man should either a)keep his pants on (and zipped up) at all times, or b) protect himself at all times! It does take two to make a baby! Regardless of weather or not you wanted the pregnancy if your girl is pregnant you have to take responsibility....you play, you pay.
2007-01-31 05:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings on this subject. I am 18. I graduated from high school a year early. Half of my graduating class was pregnant. I got married 3 days after graduation. I am in college and my husband and I have been trying to have a baby since before we were married. In the town I live in there are girls in the JR. High pregnant. THat is just crazy. I think my opionion varies from person to person. Some of these girls have no clue what it takes to raise a child. For example my friend beth just had a baby in Nov. she just turned 17. She smokes pot and drinks while she is breast feeding. She doesnt put her baby in a car seat. Then there is my friend Tiffany who is 17 and just had a baby and she is doing everything greatly plus going to school (Beth dropped out.) In my town there is a 12 year old girl who just had twins. and the worst part is she willingly got pregnant by a 26 year old guy. Its just not fair... My husband and I want a child more then anything and have the funds and the means of raising a child. But all these girls that either don't want there baby or can't take care of a child can get pregnant. I think it depends of the intellingence of the the girl and the supporrt of the people around her.
2016-05-23 23:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The teens seeking a baby are crying out for attention and the lack of love they feel in their lives right now. Rarely do they think of the consequences or what is required to bring a baby into the world. It is a selfish act on their part but they are numb and feel a baby will bring them back to life.
The parents of these girls should be looked at and questioned. If parents would give them their attention, love, understanding and assistance all along perhaps they wouldn't seek this type of attention.
I believe teens need more supervision, more consequences for their actions, more love and more communication. If parents paid attention to their teen's behavior and get the help they need, all these unnecessary pregnancies wouldn't be happening.
2007-01-31 06:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I completely agree with you. However, I rather that they have the child and give up for adoption then aborting if they later decide that the baby isn't much fun as they had thought. That is something I will never understand, how a mother who has carried a child inside of her just murder it without a second thought. But I do agree that teens nee to be educated so they could know how much work and responsibility comes with a raising a child.
2007-01-31 05:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
often times girls feel pressured into having sex by a male partner.
and i dont know if you are religious or not-but Mary had Jesus when she was 14 years old.
is she a whore? ... i didnt think so
teenagers just have hormones. Just like adults. When I have children, and my children are older, 12,13 years old...I will know that hey, they have hormones and they are going to be thinking about sex, it's part of life. and hopefully I will have taught them about waiting for the right person, and about using protection, etc etc.
teenagers are going to be irresponsible. nobody is perfect. teenagers, more than adults are not perfect. and you know what-in school, nobody talks to teenagers openly about protection and really about what life is like with a baby. if you are really this fervent about teenage pregnancy, get out there and do something about it...get involved and do something in the school system...you can volunteer... talk to girls, give a seminar. teenagers know that adults don't trust us. if teenagers have babys, they become adults because they have a child to take care of, then adults have to listen to a teenager.
sry this is so long
have a good day. and i mean that sincerely. :-)
2007-01-31 10:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by janette k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to have a baby. For every teenaged girl, there's a teenaged boy (usually) who also isn't using some form of contraception.
These are kids. They live in the world where "it would never happen to me" or they think a baby will be sweet, like a puppy.
2007-01-31 05:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young people have and always will have babies. It's been that way for centuries. Guess what no one is going to change this fact and they will continue having babies for centuries to come. Teens are human and humans are sexual beings period. Access to factual info and birth control is the only way to give a young person what they need to base their decisions on.
2007-01-31 05:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it rel ally isn't any of your business if these teenage girls get pregnant and what they really want to do so i think everyone has their own opinion because my daughter got pregnant at 15 and we have no regrets it does not anger me its just the person. if they had sex then its their problem not yours so why should you be angry
2007-01-31 05:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by MEEKA MEEKA 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you to an extent. I think entrapment is awful and I think negligence is bad too. Perhaps you are not having another baby yet because you have to learn patience, understanding, and tolerance for all people. Why are you so angry? Good luck
2007-01-31 05:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋