You've been dating this girl for 5 weekends now and you like her; not in love with her yet; but like spending time with her. She is very sweet. Spent the last 5 weekends (Friday night thru Sunday night straight together) and have not yet talked about feelings and/or being exclusive... Would it be considered cheating or even wrong if your ex called you for a booty call and you thought about going to see her...? Thanks, I just need a moral check...
2007-01-31 05:25:41 · 14 answers · asked by Milkywayman22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Another bit of info... Its not about the booty call... But more like my EX is moving away to another state and I wanted to see her one last time... I was truly in love with her...
I don't really know how I feel about the new girl... I like her a lot and she is the sweetiest person ever... I don't want to hurt her... But there is a little voice in my head that says its OK, we are not officially together/exclusive... I am so freakin confused...
2007-01-31 05:39:52 · update #1
(Assuming this is serious)
I don't see the problem. You obviously haven't made a commitment of any kind to the new girl. You have the right to see other people. Unless you have a moral objection against booty calls in general, you would be okay.
You're not under any obligation to volunteer to the new girl that this happened, but you should be honest if it comes up. She should know you as you really are.
Once you agree to be seeing each othe exclusively, that's a different story, but she shouldn't assume the relationship is exclusive, just because you've been spending a lot of time together. But don't be upset if you find out she's done the same thing with an old bf!
2007-01-31 05:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by gamblin man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point if you want a future with this girl - DO NOT do it.
I know if I found out then it would be a red light for any relationship. Why would a woman want a man who still sleeps with his ex? Or how would you feel if you were her?
If you have feelings or anything invested in the relationship would it be worth it for some sex with someone you already decided not to have a relationship with.
I hope this helps and the best of luck to you!!! :)
2007-01-31 13:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this - how would you feel if her ex called and she went on a booty call? If you don't like that idea clearly it's wrong for you too - and I guess it's time to talk to her about where things are going. If you don't care about her sleeping w/another guy perhaps you need to ask yourself how much you care and if you think things are going to move forward.
2007-01-31 13:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay away from the ex. It would be a distraction which you do not need. There is no issue here relating to moral considerations, since none of these actions have any effect on society as a whole.
2007-01-31 13:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, are you bf and gf, or are you free to see other people right now? Because if you're mostly exclusive, even if you dont call her your girlfriend, and talk to her every day or every other day, and like her a lot...it would be wise not to sleep with your ex.
It's your call, but I wouldnt want to have to explain that one if your new girl found out. (which could happen if your ex gets jealous, girls can be mean...)
2007-01-31 13:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mellissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 weekends is nothing. You haven't had the talk yet so your still a free man. Enjoy the booty!
2007-01-31 13:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by gi_jane_kicks_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back to your ex, its a trap. and your jeopardizing your new lady friend's friendship.
Next thing you know, your back with your ex, then you remember why you two broke up in the first place. Your lady friend will be broken hearted.
Trust your heart and not your ding-dong!! ;)
just need a little patience
2007-01-31 13:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by a Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you want to risk hurting the girl your seeing? even if your not together it could make her feel you dont really care about her.
If you like her stick with her if you just want to be a sl^t and hook-up with ex's then go for it but dont expect this girl to just stick around.
2007-01-31 13:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're still a single man to me. But, if she asks if you're seeing anyone else, you should be honest about it (just don't provide too many details).
Also, it's not real smart to have sexual relationships with more than one person at a time for safety reasons, so please be careful!
2007-01-31 13:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm....I wouldn't...she is an *ex*. Ex's need to stay ex's cause there is a reason she became an *ex*....right? So let it go and explore the new relationship....
2007-01-31 13:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋