I know I need to move on, but for some reason I need to get proof and catch him in the act. I suppose it's because he says I'm crazy for accuseing him. What are some ways to catch him without spending a fortune on a private investigator?
2007-01-31 05:06:24 · 12 answers · asked by paddington_ck 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've read this post, and your other posts of the last three days. It sounds like you want undisputable proof.
Let's see... he won't put your picture up at his place, he has phone numbers of mystery women, claims women are all attracted to him, and that he is too social with his female friends. I think I got them all. I think his committment ring was to just keep you interested.
Add up all the pieces. Don't waste your time or money. If you think this guy is cheating, and you aren't happy with the relationship, and are uncomfortable, then you should leave. Simple as that. Ask yourself why you are staying with this guy. Add up the advantages of being with him, and add up the disadvantages. If the only advantage is, say, "good lovin'", run away. You can get that anywhere. You're obviously not happy.
In the words of Governor Rick Perry, you should be telling him, "Adios, mofo!"
2007-02-01 00:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a special investigator and the only real way to catch him is to find a detective and have him film the actual cheating. You can find new people in the field who won't ask for an arm and and a leg to do the job or you can get a good friend to tail him and catch him on video. It doesn't take a pro to do it just someone with plenty of time.
2007-01-31 13:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you gain by getting proof? Is this an indication that you have doubts or that you want to throw the proof in his face, so as to gain some kind of victory? Ask yourself what is the motive behind getting proof. If you need to know in order to move on shows he has managed to confuse you and leave you not sure of him cheating. I always say, the truth always comes out eventually. If he is not being concerned about your feelings and is just calling you crazy for feeling the way you do, then that is a strong indication that he is cheating. Believe me, you are in denial and do not really want to find out he is cheating, you want to find out he is not. So even though you catch him red handed, you will somehow talk yourself out of the idea of him cheating. So no matter what you see, you will not believe. Move on, who needs the drama! Best to you!
2007-01-31 13:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about how you feel is proof enough. Are you trying to prove it to him that he is a liar or yourself? Let him go. You don't need to drag it out any longer if you already know he is cheating. Kick his a** to the curb and either give yourself time to yourself or make way for someone new to come and treat you better. What good is it really going to do if you catch him in the act? Hurt your feelings a little more, or give him the opportunity to lie his way out of it again. And then what..... Just move on hon.
2007-01-31 13:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on? You might be wrong but if not, truth will be out. You'll have to invade his privacy. Some proof should be there somewhere. Check his mobile (inbox, outbox, sent messages), his email, his purse, if possible his room or whatever. If not then you'll have to be your own investigator, watch his moves and follow him! All the best!
2007-01-31 13:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pearl_beach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur feeling it in ur heart it probably is true and i would go with what ur feeling in ur heart and believe what ur heart is trying to tell u u could follow him ur self or have a friend do it for u and have a camera with u and get pics of it and then show him u have proof and then dump him for someone else and move on with ur life i know how it feels to have that feeling in ur heart that ur boyfriend is cheating on u but u dont have proof that he is my ex cheated onme for 8 months an di thought he was i had a feeling in my heart and it was true he was he told my brother after we broke up and it wasnt easy to deal with but i got over it and got over him and found someone worth being with and im happy that i moved on and after he found out i was dating the guy im with now he wrote me a letter asking me back out and i told him no i couldnt go through the hurting of him cheating on me again and that i had someone that treats me better and wants to be with me and show me tha the really cares and love me and wants to make a life with me and he hasnt asked me back out since but he is still jealous that i have someone else inmy life and that im happy
2007-01-31 14:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think hiring a private detective would be the only way to get concrete proof. Sorry youre going through that!
2007-01-31 13:13:11 · answer #7 · answered by lcd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can feel it in your heart why would you want to hurt yourself by seeing it?
I would spend the money for an investigator if it means that much but personally I trust my intuition enough to trust it.
2007-01-31 13:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow him just as a private investigator does.
2007-01-31 13:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by aaron 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you catch him in the act use a broom on him!
2007-01-31 13:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋