Advice needed regarding controlling mother?

Question

I need advice. My mother claims I am responsible for my one year old getting sick recently. She thinks I do not dress him properly. I put him in his cold weather coat, gloves and hat and warm pants with an undershirt and shirt over that. I have tried to convice her that it is his exposure to germs at daycare that are making him sick. She thinks otherwise. How do I get her to stop making these hurtful comments?

Answer 1

Tell her everytime you got sick as a child, you blame HER!

Answer 2

There is no way for you to control what comes out of her mouth.
The only advice I can give you is to learn to let it go in one ear and out the other. Some people feed off of giving guilt to others. No mother in there right mind would want to cause there child harm and I am sure you are doing your best. Sometimes no matter how hard we try some parents can never say a supportive thing don't waste your energy trying to rationalize it put that energy into something productive that benefits you and your son.

Answer 3

Give mom a break. Grandma's are usually old school, and we were taught differently about child raising than younger parents are taught now. Some good and some not good advise is inevitable. Dont take it personally, she probably means well. When she makes comments such as this, tell her that you appreciate her concern, and that you will think about what she said, but that it is your child and you are responsible enough to make your own child care decisions.

Answer 4

Ignore them. Or, just try and talk to her and show her data backing up what actually causes illness. My mom did the same and I was always telling her that kids don't get sick from being outside, they get sick from germs being passed from one kid to the other. I guess it's hard to convince our mother's from the "old school" era otherwise. Just know that you are doing the best for your children and that sometimes kids just get sick no matter how careful you are.

Answer 5

First of all, did you ask your mother for her advice? I'm sure you are quite quallified to know how to dress your children in the cold. Maybe if you had a sit down with your mother and had a heart to heart you could set up some boundaries. Mother's like to give advice, but they should also know when it is appropriate.

Answer 6

Book a package vacation deal during the winter at the height of day care flu season, and ask her to watch your child while you are away.

The first year of day care is the worst as this is the year that regardless of how you dress them they get every illness known to mankind. From there it seemed to taper off a bit.

Answer 7

If she will threaten you with Social centers and particularly frighten you the project withn your father and his better half is a small isn't a small one. in the event that they might no longer be left on my own with them that could be a great one. now and returned drawing near Social centers or Barnadoes for advice takes the wind out of a critics sails. i think of they may well be happier with you going to them fairly than any opposite direction around, the "small " concern which includes your father concerns me particularly and that i ask your self what the can of worms is here

Answer 8

Gather the research to support the facts that illness comes from viruses and bacteria, not from "getting a chill" because you coat is unzipped. Then, let your mother read it.