There's a guy I'm friends with at work. We joke around a lot and we have a lot in common. He seems to really enjoy joking around with me, but he's very shy. The other day, I told him about a dream I had about him (not a sex dream). I could tell it really gave him an ego boost when I told him. He jokingly asked me, "I wonder what that dream means." I said I didn't know. He said with a smile, "Maybe it means you might like me." I sarcastically said, "I don't know. I hope not." Another thing, he is so sweet when it's just the 2 of us, but when there is another guy friend of his around he tries to act cool and he isn't mean but he really isn't as sweet towards me as usual. We're both really shy and I'm not even sure how to act around him. He came up to work yesterday with a friend of his and I awkwardly waved and said hi but that's it. And he didn't make any extra attempt to talk to me. Sorry this is so long. Do you think he likes me? How can I find out w/o getting rejected?
2007-01-31 04:57:42 · 13 answers · asked by Jelly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he likes you but he's afraid to be open about it with his friends. He also sounds like a total guy because he can't show his feelings very well except when he doesn't feel pressure form other people. Since he's so comfortable around you he might very well like you, but you could have put him at a distance with the "I hope not" comment. You could always ask how he feels, or act like you're 'pretending' to flirt with him and if he flirts back you probably have a good chance with him. If he doesn't like you or if it seems like he doesn't like you then just try and stay friends with him.
2007-01-31 05:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Valentine's day is coming. I think you should volunteer to organise a secret santa valentines thingy at work (you know the thing where everyone chooses a name out of a hat and then you have to buy a gift worth £5 for them). But you go around with the hat and make sure that he gets your name. Now you'll have to be smart with this. Mark the folded name so you kNOW he gets your name. This is a good test, I think.
2007-01-31 13:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy Lake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, work relationships are difficult, no matter what!! Second off, he's going to be awkward you said he's shy, but add in the other folks around, and being at work ---that's just a double whammy.
In order to find out, you are going to have to get outside of the job place alone with this person - and see how THAT goes....although it's ALWAYS going to be awkward at work.
2007-01-31 13:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by are_see_bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both like each other....he def. flirts alot. Guys get more akward when there friends are around. You can start by asking him to hang out, get some coffee or go to a movie sometime to get to know him better and see where it goes. Then when you are alone you can flirt more see if he acts the same then ask if he likes you. Just try to get to know him better and it should b easier for you to tell...he might feel more comfortable around you then too.
2007-01-31 13:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by MissPeteWentz<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so worried about rejection...either he likes u or he doesnt...maybe he doesnt know what he wants. Why dont you ask him and a few other friends to go out so its not so awcquard and see how he acts... I would just tell him I like him
2007-01-31 13:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by lilsusie2483 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know how that feels..thats just how guys are they dont like to act all romantic in front of their freinds. So by the way iot sounds he likes but he isnt sure how to show it. GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-31 13:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by shak_ur_money_maker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never can find out safely without risking rejection.
You just have to ask yourself whats more important, your pride and your fear or the possibility of a relationship?
2007-01-31 13:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who rejected him, you are the one who was sarcastic when he asked if you thought your dream meant he liked you. Just be honest, you are not in school anymore.
2007-01-31 13:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by fancyname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is odiously into you, try asking him out on a casual date like to lunch or movies, see how he acts on there "dates" . in a movie if he puts his arm around you he want you but is shy and scared, at lunch if he asks you out again he wants a casual relationship. good luck ;-)
2007-01-31 13:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation.
Guys like these know that they are liked ....
They enjoy the attention... and play around ...
Be cautious with your heart .. its made up of glass...
Look away - don't give him undue attention.
2007-01-31 13:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋