Boyfriend and I broke up about three months ago. We have startedto be friends again or at least try.He told me there was still hope and kissed me, said he knew he shouldnt of kissed me, but he missed it and misses me..But not ready for a real relatinship again. Says hes not healthy enough right now for anybody..I have confussed feelings over and over.. This past monday my car broke down and he came, gave me his car, I took him to work and took his car to work. I put gas in it and such. Picked him up after work and he ended up fixing my car and saving me $250. Now i told him i really could not see him right now, for he offered to help put some furniture together. He said to text him to let himknow that my car was good. Isaid dont worry it would fine.He then texted me the next morning to make sure my car was ok. I never answered back. I then realize today that i left my lipgloss in his car. I feel a little rude for not texting back for he did help out. Do i take his offering and bother?
2007-01-31 04:52:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although he sounds like an nice guy, it really sounds to me like he wants to have you around sometimes, but be "free" at the same time.
If you're not okay with that, I would just tell him how you feel. Once you're a couple, it can be very difficult to be just friends -- and there is nothing wrong with you telling him it's not what you want. If you let him have it this way, you may only get hurt again, and again.
If he does love you, and really wants to be with you, he will miss you once you are TRULY gone. Then, if it's meant to be, he may come back for real. If not, you are better without him anyway.
Good luck!
2007-01-31 05:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually still really close with my ex... and it's hard at first only because you witness the new relationships and such, and you're remembering the past... and that's really hard... I'm getting over it, and i've become accustom to being "the friend" it's hard tho cuz we both still have feelings for eachother and when it surfaces it makes things hard... In your situation it seems like he's just trying to be a friend... not making it a flirting/relationship type thing... but if you're not ready for that contact you should just let him know... and hopefully at some point you'll be able to be friends.
2007-01-31 05:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by lilmissheiress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can be friends with an ex and things will be fine but other times it's hard and maybe not a good idea to stay friends after a breakup. It all depends on the 2 people involved. You BOTH have to think about how you would BOTH feel if one or both ends up in another relationship with someone else. There is alot to consider. Good Luck
2007-01-31 04:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation all depends on what kind if relationship you two had previously. I've had ex-girlfriends that have suffered greatly by staying my friend and I've had ex-griflriends who have stayed great friends with me. Its up to how you feel about the relationship. If this guy used you in the past, there is a good possibility he is going to do it again. Remember, a lot of relationships repeat because people are afraid to be alone. Therefore the easy thing for people to do is go back to their ex, often suffering with a bad relationship. Trust me, if you know that your relationship isn't good for either of you, then fight the promise of togetherness and just keep moving on. It will benefit both of you in the long run.
2007-01-31 05:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Logie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on you. i'm still friends with all my ex's, you just have to assure them that the relationship is over but what was there before the relationship is more important/stronger than the splitting up. its not hard to still be someones friend in this situation, besides it cant hurt having another friend and if you take the time to work it out then yea you can be friends. i would thank him and tell him how you feel about the whole thing and where you stand. if you down then it'll start getting really weird for both of you(which im sure its already starting to). good luck
2007-01-31 05:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by airdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 07:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want his as a friends but if you think the reason you broke up is good enough to stop talking to him that do that.
2007-01-31 05:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by J D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2007-01-31 04:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by HopeH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer in severing all contact with ex's because it helps getting over them and I don't want to know who they are going to date.
2007-01-31 04:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough but you should remeber why you broke up and if it were to happen agaain would you handle it well choice is youre but where there was love it always remains just be friends its the best you can do.
2007-01-31 04:59:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋