my father passed away 25 years ago . . my mother used the life insurance to pay off the house . . it is hugh 3400 square ft 3bed 2 bath she has lived alone in the house for 20 years and she can not afford to live there let alone pay the taxes on 900.00 a month social security . . she told me and my siblings that we need to pay her taxes because some day the house will be ours. . we don't have the $$ and neither does my sister . . my bro is angry cause he thinks we should pay up . . but we think she should sell the house and buy a small home that she can afford . . the taxes are due today . .
2007-01-31 04:51:44 · 8 answers · asked by Rainy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom and dad only lived in the house 8 months before he died, I had to live there until I turned 18(3 years), when I live with her I paid 200.00 per mo rent even though I was under 18, my brother never lived there and my sister has lived there on and off when she went through her divorce.
2007-01-31 05:10:54 · update #1
I have my own home that me and my family (husban and 2 children) live in and have for 18 years.
2007-01-31 05:12:59 · update #2
If you don't have the money, you don't have the money. Getting mad about it doesn't change the fact.
Sell the house and get mom into a small condo or something if she can't afford it. Use the profit from the house to augment her social security. You're responsible to see that mom is safe, fed and has a roof over her head. You're not responsible to pay for a house 4 times bigger than she needs.
2007-01-31 04:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should pay the taxes one time only. Then take the next month or so to decide what is the best action to assist your mom. Sounds like she loves her home and just needs a little assistance. She could have some senior roommate move in and assist with expenses and that will also offset any loneliness she may have. She could sell the house as you think is best, but at what price her memories and life with her loving husband are rapped up in that house (it is her home and yours) Invest in yourself and your future by assisting your mom now..Hell if she is telling you the house will be yours someday then have her put it in your name and move into the house to help her. I am sure that your brothers and sister will let you have the house if you are willing to take on the care of mom. I hope your mom gets to keep her home, it maybe the only thing that she has to hold her close to the memories of your dad. Best of luck and do all you can.
Tracylyn S
2007-01-31 05:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would pay them for this year and then discuss with her your idea about a smaller house. She will need time to let that thought sink in. Even though you may have a good idea, it doesn't mean that she can accept it right away. Maybe get this years taxes behind you and immediately have a family discussion and look at different directions that are available for the upcoming year.
2007-01-31 05:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should help her pay the taxes. If you don't live there then why pay. You have your own things to worry about. You can't worry about other people's bills being paid. I understand that she is your mom, but she can't expect you to dish out money every month if you aren't living there. Moving her to a smaller house or an apartment would prolly be better for her.
2007-01-31 04:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the title is under your mother's name, then she is responsible for it. If you do not have the money, then you can't pay. It's just that simple. You cannot spring such a huge financial burden on someone and expect them to pay. You need to plan and decide how you're going to save for it and how everyone is going to pitch in, including your mother. She can save at least $5 a month. If not, tell her to get a job, or sell the house. She is living beyond her means.
2007-01-31 04:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Uncle owns the property. Your mother has no rights. Paying the taxes doesn't make you the owner
2016-05-23 23:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
900$ a month is a huge tax, but as she is due, its your duty to pay it off if she cant.. where you means you & your siblings. Remember the days when she fulfilled your wishes when you were kids & now when she needs you.. you cant back off.
After this payment, discuss with her to shift her to a smaller house. I personally pity for this lady... why is she left alone at this age?
2007-01-31 05:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should help pay!!! Your mother brought you into this world thru pain so the least you can do is help her out. after all.......she is leaving you the home. Think of it as an investment.
2007-01-31 04:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋