I have been with my boyfriend about 2 and a half years. When we first got together we had a ruff start, dealing with his ex. He has a child with her, when we first got together he stayed all night there once, he said his son was sick, and wanted him to stay. He said he only slept on the couch. His ex said he stayed there all of the time, and slept with her. See he first tried lying about this. This hasn't happened since. But still it is hard to trust him, when I know he lied then, and he goes there every weekend to get his son. Does anyone have any helpful advise, for trusting.
2007-01-31 04:46:35 · 9 answers · asked by Summer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remind him that they are ex's for a reason, i feel as if he hadn't have lied to you about staying over there and not sleeping with his ex, he isn't worth having, you are always going to feel this way he lied to you (that is assuming his ex is telling the truth). I wouldn't in all honesty know how you can trust him again, once the trust is broken it is nearly impossible to gain it back. I know he has a child by her but that should be as far as it goes, only communication about the child. I hope things work out for you.
2007-01-31 04:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should earn your trust, it can't be learned. It seems it's been a while since that incident, so really need to decide weather or not you can let that go to be happy with him. If the way he lied to you then makes you feel like he had no problem doing it and would easily do it again, then trust your instincts and save yourself some heartache!
Easier said then done though, right!
2007-01-31 12:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a man who doesn't have children. You've had problems with his guy for 2 years- when is enough going to be enough? Maybe if you get out of the way, he and the baby's mother can get back together and make a proper family.
You don't even trust him, so what's the point?
2007-01-31 12:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no way you can still trust a guy like that. after 2 years u shouldn't be asking this question because it means hes not gonna change and there is no way hes gonna start now. sorry but it shouldnt b that way
2007-01-31 12:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Panictwilight18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I can help: see it takes time and effort to trust him
because as good "Relationships between yourself & boyfriend
has to be stronger every day ! where as best things must work
out of course.Yes great goals shown today called "Responsibility"
also "Respectful "
God Bless you & Take care ok ?
2007-01-31 13:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you ever comlpetely gain back the trust from a relationship. ONce it is broken it is hard to gain back, this is why you should not do anything to cause distrust.
2007-01-31 12:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re-evaluate your relationship with him.
Do you want to stay with him, and why, and can you get over the trust thing?
Maybe you should ask him if he would like to be with his babys momma, be fair to him too.
2007-01-31 12:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT HES ALWAYS GOING TO HAVE TO OUT UP WITH HIS BABY'S MAMA AND IF YOU WANT TO BE PART OF HIM LIFE ITS SOMETHING U HAVE TO GET USED TOO... AND IF HIS BABY'S SICK AND WANTS HIM TO STAY THEN WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO GET JEALOUS BECAUSE HE WANT TO BE WITH HIM CHILD?? GROW UP AND IF HE LOVES YOU THEN YOU WOULD UNDERSTAND....
2007-01-31 12:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow ur heart and dont stress
2007-01-31 12:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by roxy_east 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋