My partner and I lost our home about 3 weeks ago and were very nearly homeless, we had 2 dogs when this happened who ment so much to us! It was not fair to keep our dogs when we were in such a state and so we made the very very hard decision to re-home them both!
We cried alot and it caused alot of heartache but it did mean we got accepted into a new house and we both got full time jobs!
Things are going ok for us now, but we miss our dogs so much!
The other day my partner got a phone call saying our dog had to have a operation which she had and is ok but apparently she is like a different dog now and they have had to separate her from our other dog as they no longer get along! They have asked us if we will take her back.
we would love to but we are both working full time and living in a rented house that has a tiny garden it doesnt even have grass!
She has sepeartion anxiety and so needs ALOT of attention and will bark constantly when were at work!
What do we do?
2007-01-31 04:42:48 · 20 answers · asked by kirsty m 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
There has not been a day go by so far where I have not Imagined going to pick her up and seeing her little face and her licking me!
This dog really did mean alot to us, I am trying to do whats right for her not whats right for us!
This is the problem, because I would have her back in a second I never even wanted to get re-home her that broke my heart! and now its happening all over again :-(
2007-01-31 05:06:08 · update #1
Your heart aches for the lost dog, and you want her badly but you answered your own question. As you re-read you see you have a rented home, a garden with no grass, and full time jobs, you are thinking to take a dog with seperation anxiety. You will not have enough time, or room, or attention for the dog. They dog will not be able to live outdoors comfortably. Though you want to do the right thing and you JUST got back on your feet. Please dont take the dog back. You are going to be heartbroken and saddled with a unbearable burden. Be responsible, refuse the dog. Wait a while till your more stable and can have a dog that can live with you. A smaller, less active dog would be better, and maybe not a dog at all. Try a Cat or something that can live in the house if you feel you need to give something a home.
2007-01-31 04:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by I luv Pets 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear this, its upsetting that so few landlords will let tenants keep a dog.
You know that you cannot look after a dog with seperation anxiety, becaue you're out all day. Finding a reliable dog sitter for the next few years would be a strain and an expense.
Try to resist the temptation to visit her; it will just make it harder for her to settle in her new home.
Your dog hadn't been at the new home long, then left and came back from the vets smelling different. All thats needed is extra time and to settle her in as if she were a new dog.
She probably felt grumpy with the others and doesn't want a lot of attention so soon after the op.
Just tell her new owners to give her more time to settle again.
:( Best of luck to you.
2007-01-31 09:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the new owners don't seem very patient people. If she has just had an operation she may need a little time to get over it awell as the recent new home. All this in the space of 3 weeks is a lot to cope with for her. It takes dogs around 6 weeks to settle into a new home anyway and that's without the stress of an operation. Poor little cow. Where are you in the country? I may be able to offer a foster home for her and rehome her myself. I would be very very choosy about any new home I found for her.
I don't think you taking her back permanently is a good option for you or her.
2007-01-31 05:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by fenlandfowl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a dreadful dilemma to have but well done for getting yourselves sorted out.
I feel you can't take the dog back now you are both working full time, particularly as she won't be happy when you are at work. The only thing I would hope is that the dog starts to settle down soon in her new home now the operation is out of the way.
There's also the chance that your landlord may kick you out of your new home if you have a dog, particularly one that barks a lot whenever you are not there.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
2007-01-31 04:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by qurm_kim 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think your being selfish because you seem to have the dog's best interest at heart. i think the dog will be better off in a house where at least someone is in most of the day because as you said it has sepearation anxiety, and if you still think your being selfish then maybe help out the people who are caring for the dog at the moment by finding a suitable home for the dog therefore you are helping the dog even if you not taking it because you are being realistic, you cant put a job on hold and change to another house at the push of a button. hope you decide on whats best for you and the dogs!
2007-01-31 04:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you did bring her home, you have said yourself that you work all day and she has a separation problem, which mean she may cause a nuisance to your neighbours until one of you gets home, which is unfair on your neighbours.
Sounds like she would now be better as an only dog for an elderly couple who are retired and would have the time to look after her.
2007-02-01 00:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she should be re-homed as you won't be able to give her the home she needs as your situation has changed its hard but you made the choice to leave them go and you must stick by that as it will only make things worse for the dog in the long run she needs a home where she can be looked after all day and have company without other dogs there
2007-01-31 05:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a thoughtful question. I'm not going to say anything different from anyone else who answers, but I do feel for you in that situation - I would be just as torn as you obviously are. It does sound to me that it would be best to get her rehomed as you could end up in an even worse mess if you take her back. You are being very responsible and I'm sure you'll make the right choice - best of luck to you.
2007-01-31 04:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Wibble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you are responsible person, but I think that you should ask the advice of professionals on this such as the RSPCA.
It is my opinion that it is cruel to leave a dog in a house all day with no one there to look after it.
2007-01-31 04:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by footynutguy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know what your going through - i had to give up one of my dogs when i got divorced. the friend i gave her to also had to give her up but she is well with a relative and i see her often.
in the beginning is was so difficult but you have to do what is best for the dog. if there is no garden then you cant have her back its not fair.
why don't you assist in finding her a new, good home. you will see where she is going and it may make you feel a little better.
its hard getting over it but remain positive.
i wish you and your doggy well.
2007-01-31 06:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by pepstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋