i want to know for sure whether i love this girl or just really like her.i think about her everyday,all time.i like everything about her.i want her so badly,but she is not even my girlfriend yet.i've been having these feelings for about 4 months now,and it doens't change.do i really love her,or do i just need to get out more and meet more women?maybe that way,i can forget about her.cos keeping all these feelings inside me really hurts,and she already has a boyfriend.she knows that i like her,that i know.but i dont know how to go about this further.everytime i see her now days,all these old feelings keep coming back and it's hard to control.should i move on,or should still pursue her?if i should pursue her,how do i go about it?cos i don't want to like go and tell her all my deep feelings and scare her,and then get rejected.it's too precious for me to blow it up.that's why i wanna know how to go about it in a smart way..
2007-01-31 04:34:39 · 21 answers · asked by steven c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Regardless of whether or not you love her. She's taken and off limits. Find a girl who's single.
2007-01-31 04:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same problem myslef. I truly feel the same way about the guy that i like as you feel about this girl. If she already has a boyfriend maybe you should take things slow with her at first. Like first become her friend. And when her and this guy break up, if they do, then try and tell her. But not at first because she will probably be upset. I know it hurts trying to keep the feelings inside. Trust me I go through it every single day with the guy that I like. I actually do love him. I never felt this way about any guy before. But maybe you should try dating. And just become friends with her at first. It's like having your cake and eating it to. You can have her as a friend and at the same time have a girlfriend and recognize your true feelings for both of them. Try it. If it doesnt work out. Then tell her. But I wouldnt do that without being friends with her first. Trust me thats a quick way to get hurt the worst. Good Luck and tell me how everything turns out.
2007-01-31 04:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorta hard to give advice because i think this may be something you have to find out for yourself. I"m assuming, based on the way you type....you are in middleschoool/highschool/early college
Hmm.... i think a lot of people went / go through this sort of thing.
I'd say just let it go. Not implying anything about you....but the hollywood romance stuff where the ugly guy gets the supermodel to fall in love doesn't happen too often.
I guess it could happen if it was meant to be. Just remember...just because YOU think it was meant to be...that DOES NOT necessarily mean it was meant to be.
I remember back in highschool i really liked this girl, but never talked to her. I was good at working my way into groups, so i did and we ended up being fairly good friends. After i got to really know her i thought i was in love with her. I never said anything, but everyone sorta figured it out eventually.
She thought it was cute, was a little more flirty with me....and for being a highschool boy i took that the to mean the entirely wrong thing. Everyone knew who she liked and she knew i knew.
Now i thought i was in a different situatoin, i found out i wasn't, since its agaisnt my religion to date....parents even took preventive measure to not allow this to happen (not allowed to go out with friends more than once a month....7 pm curfew). I figured it was actually better she didn't like me....but regardless i still had feelings for her...and the same thigns you have....cant' stop thinking about her...that sorta stuff.
Well she obviously didn't have any deep feelings towards me besides being a close friend and i guess normally only 2 things happen in this situation. Men either move on or become a creepy obsessive stalker. Well i did neither...but since i wasn't moving on ...to her that meant i was the latter. I even..well i guess did some semi stalkerish things...i have pretty good memory for detail and over the course of a year i learned her schedule and stuff...i used that to avoid her. Went out of my way to be the anti stalker.
Ultimately... i didn't think it was necessary to move on because i thought my feelings were real. Being a highschool girl she didn't handle the situation well.....neither did i. We ended not being friends for a while. Eventually we did again.
Now i guess those feelings could've been real, but ...some people may disagree.... you can convince yourself to like/fall in love with some one. You can start forgetting about all the imperfections and make the person "perfect" and therefore perfect for you. As time goes on, you can make yourself like them more and more.
Looking back on this experience, i realize i did some wrong things and it was somewhat devestating at the time, but in the end i'm glad it happened.
2007-01-31 05:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by My name is not bruce 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out is actually do something about it. To an outsider it sounds like you are in love, but it could be lust. Do some research and find out wether those feelings you have for her grow once you spend sometime with her or if was just the fact that it was something new to you. We all learn by our own experiences don't let anybody influence you in any matter of the heart.
2007-01-31 04:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you really love her you may not be in love but there is love there ask yourself what you would do for this girl and that will tell you a lot more? Do you ever talk to her that would be a way to start just be really good friends and then maybe one day if you two are meant to be together it will happen
2007-01-31 04:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your just obsessing about this girl. You may think that you love her but she might not be the right one.. you should find someone out there that will be able to love you back.. its a good feeling to be loved too.. just keep this girl as a good friend.. you can love a friend to.. and when you two get really close you can then tell her how you felt or feel about her.. who knows it just might make a difference..
2007-01-31 04:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you a story...
i once was in the same boat.(actually twice)
heres the first.
there was a girl named alex, and for some odd reason i was wraped around her finger. i would do any thing for her. i mean ANYTHING... and one week i asked her out (even tho she had a bf) she said she would thing about it. and that night i called her and said " i just want you to know, i love you". she freaked out and never spoke to me agian. i was heart broken...
no dont spill your guts to her...
but this is the second girl...
i thought i knew love but i wasnt even close. she was my best friends gf and i didnt know what to do... so i shoved it from my mind... i waited for the right time to pounce. most guys are jerks so its 90% chance that she end up hurt. then you should be her shoulder to cry on. become here best friend. help her. let here know youal always be there. to know that they have a true friend.
if you wait she will come...
ps (shes now my fiance)
http://autos.groups.yahoo.com/group/streetknights/
2007-01-31 05:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she already has a boyfriend and she hasn't shown you any signs of liking you, then maybe you should try and move on. You could still try telling her your feelings and lay your heart on the line, but if she rejects you, then just know that they're are plenty of more fish in the sea
2007-01-31 04:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...if you dont know if you love her, then you dont. Love isnt something you can explain, you just know if you love someone. Its like your ribs hurt from thinking about them so much. If you dont know her very well, then i would call it lust. If you get to know her and still have feelings for her then that lust can easily turn in to love. You have a physical attraction right now. Love is deeper than just a physical attraction. Just play it cool and make her see that she would rather have you as a boyfriend. Dont be too nice, girls dont like that, they like a little mystery.
2007-01-31 04:40:25 · answer #9 · answered by ~*RazzleDazzle*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely you're just really infatuated w/ this girl.(it may seem like love sometimes,but its not.)you dont know her well enough to really love her. you just admire what you think she may be or from the out ward appearance of things (which is limited). in anycase, i'Ve been in this situation, & i gave myself a chance to meet other people. i finally met this guy who blew my mind!!! :). needless to say, he also blew the other guy out of the water by far. give yourself a chance to like someone else it helps a whoooole lot if you want 2 get over this girl. i think you're going to have to do this b/c she has a man. save your energy for someone else & really allow urself to like & get to know the other person. you'llrealize w/ time, that maybe the other girl wasnt as heavenly as u thought she was.
2007-01-31 04:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋