I keep hearing that it's a lifestyle choice. How hard is it for you personally to NOT be attracted to someone of the same sex? Do you have to just remind yourself every few minutes or what?
2007-01-31 04:27:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'd love to get one of these people who claim its a choice to try this thought experiment:
I am gay, and they assert I made a choice to be gay. If I can make this choice, anyone can make this choice. They also tell me that I am called to a life of chastity if I am gay, that somehow the action, not the orientation, is the sinful aspect.
So it's not the attraction that is the sin, but the attraction, and what you do with, it is a choice.
So... I want one of these straight people who say it is a choice to sit down with some pictures of attractive persons of the same gender and for five minutes choose to find them sexually desirable.
Anyone wanna do it and report back on if they were able to make such a choice?
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Chippy: You miss the more obvious. You're playing to the old nature vs. nurture dichotomy... and in almost no case where psychology is involved is it ever exclusively one or the other. There are known genes with strong correlation to homosexuality. It's also known that in a few cases you can find them in people who are heterosexual, and in a few cases you can find homosexuals who don't have such genes.
The proper term is 'genetic predisposition'. That is, you are predisposed to something, but it must have an opportunity and venue for expression before it manifests.
2007-01-31 04:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
About as much choice as being attracted to Japanese monsters, I guess. Feelings are different for everyone. Who in the world can honestly say that they have never, ever been attracted to someone of the same sex for at least a minute? That person is in denial as far as I'm concerned.
2007-01-31 12:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sal D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? It is not a choice that these people have it is how they were born, they have no choice. It is just as someone is born heterosexual, some are born bi-sexual, or homosexual. Your God obviously created them this way and hence they are in his image as well. Homosexuality has been around since the beginning of time and is also not only in humans. There are many other animal species that homosexuality is apparent, just like in the human animal (oops, yes we are animals first).
Oh, and any person who wants to state that in the Bible it says that it is terrible, then needs to take all the Bible literally. They are then to "kill" anyone who works in the sabbath, Exodus 35:2. You are allowed to sell your daughters into slavery, Exodus 21:7. You can own slaves, Lev 25:44. You are not permitted to approach the altar of God with any defect of the eyes (glasses, contacts, etc), Lev 21:20.
So come on, either accept the Bible in full and then tell me where I can buy slaves, or take it for what it is (a bunch of children's stories). Christians are forever trying to pick pieces of the Bible that support their cause to discriminate, yet ignore other pieces. I think that all Christians should be sold into slavery and that would stop a lot of problems, just remember Christians - the meek and the poor shall inherit the earth, so please send me all your possessions and you can be my slaves as the Bible (God) says is OK. Oh, and I will try not to work you on the sabbath as I would hate to have to kill you for that.
2007-01-31 12:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
To each his own, but I just cannot get attracted to some other guys hairy backside. However, I am secure enough in my manhood to admit that a man is attractive and could be desirable to those that play that side of the field.
2007-01-31 12:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by glibby3 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
its not genetic, and its not a lifestyle choice.
you develop an attraction to certain traits and characteristics while growing up. you arent popped out of the whomb instantly attracted to same sex, and its not like you can choose who you are attracted to. its all to do with your psychological development while growing up.
if it was genetic, we would be able to know whether a child will be gay before they are even concieved.
if it was a choice, then anyone could choose at anytime to be gay or to stop being gay. i dunno about anyone else but i dont "choose" who im attracted to. certain things about girls i like/dislike, its not like, i "choose" to love ____.
take for instance your favorite color being ____. can u honestly go and just change it and make something else your favorite and start hating the color that was your favorite? deep down it will still be your favorite, and all you'll be doing is hiding behind a mask.
2007-01-31 12:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think we can help who we're attracted to, but if we choose to acknowledge the truth of God's word, we have to know that same sex attractions are a sinful desire. No different than the common one of men lusting after every woman they see, we are all responsible for taking captive those thoughts and bringing them into obedience to Christ.
I personally struggled with this for 8 years. I now have my freedom, but sometimes it still pops up. The way I gained my freedom was through speaking the truth. Everytime I had a thought, I spoke "No, that is not of God" out loud if I could, and eventually, the truth set me free. I had to fight my own thoughts all the time. It's hard, but I never made the choice to enter into that lifestyle. I stayed out. I chose to not give in to sinful desires. It IS possible.
We all have sinful desired of some sort, but our choice is whether or not to let them rule us.
2007-01-31 12:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
If you're straight, there is not choice at all, you're just not attracted. If you are gay, or bi, they you are attracted. Still no choice.
The people telling you it"s a choice have a underlying motive for doing so. They feel if it's no choice, then god is unfair. So rather than think their god is unfair, they CHOOSE to believe that others choose to be attracted to the same gender, with all the discrimination, hate, potential violence that is associated with it. A stupid belief, really, but what can you do.
Doesn't matter if god's unfair, if god doesn't consider gay to be wrong, or if there is no god - no choice is made - the attraction is there or not, nothing volitional is involved.
2007-01-31 12:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Easy I love being a woman and I like frills and all the glory that comes from being a woman
2007-01-31 12:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's funny how most of the people who swear it's a choice (and a bad one at that) insist that they are always and forever 100 percent straight!
PS to Jenny Ann--I like being a girl, too! So do the lesbian and bi women at http://www.femmemafia.com !
2007-01-31 12:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Finally a simple question! God made us. He made man and woman. He didn't make us gay. He made woman for man and man for woman. It is not hard AT ALL for me to not be attracted to the same sex. NO, I never have to remind myself.
L.
2007-01-31 12:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋