Men why have you all changed on us? This question is for all you finger liking good looking men with a career!

Question

I feel like Men have changed so much. I mean what happened to monogamie? Why can't you guys just settle for one female anymore? Why do you have this pressure to explore and have sex with other females? Why don't you value love anymore? Why don't you fine as hell men out there with the career don't want a good girl anymore? Why do we have to be extraordinarily good looking with a career, have your babies without getting out of shape, give you your privacy, cook & keep the house clean just so you can still cheat on us? Why don't you give us your love we deserve it, not no other woman out there just cause she looks good in a short dress can replace the love we feel for you, doesnt that show in everything we do for you? What would we have to be like in order to get what we want from you? Things like respect, trust, love, devotion, loyalty, graditude & consideration?

Answer 1

Hey girl, I think you are a little deluded in your view of men. First and foremost men are naturally inclined to want to sleep with different women all the time. It is in their genes and no amount of forced civility and episodes of The View will change that. They are the progenitors of the species, we women are the selectors. We select the biggest and fittest men to mate with in order to have the best children. We select the good ones.

However, that aside, stop playing that blame game that a lot of women play with men. It's not the men's fault that all you see in them are the qualities you listed here. It lies within YOU to find a good man. All men are not like that - in fact there are tons of good men out there. I have one. Granted it took me a while to find him but you just have to do it. It makes it like a reward for all your hard work to find the right man.

And to play devil's advocate, there are PLENTY of women out there that are just as cheatin', stealin' lyin' gold diggin' as any bad man you can think of. Stop perpetuating this BS and start acting like an adult and do what YOU have to do and leave the games for the kids.

Answer 2

It is the society in which we live today. If you are upset with people now, I must sadly tell you that it will only get worse. Relationships are a mile wide and an inch deep. That is because we get what we settle for. We are groomed from the time we are children to search out the most perfect pretty face and body that we can attract and give it all to them. So sad. The old folks were right after all. Long, honest engagements were the norm for a reason, not just because they were "prudes".
So, you are looking for respect, trust, true love, devotion, loyalty, gratitude, and consideration. Hmmm. It can STILL be found...but YOU have to refuse to "settle" for the first nice body that presents to you. Grandma used to say, "Pretty is as pretty does". In other words, nothing wrong with pretty...but that should just be like frosting on the cake. As we age, the frosting gets worn off. It is THEN that you will need a good solid cake underneath. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Woman do the same thing. As time has gone you will see in history that both men and women have lost there morals and do not think marriage is sacred anymore. There are a few good guys out there still its just hard to find. Also the good looking guys with carriers why do you think they do not want to settle down? They have what you want but they also do not want a girl trying to use them. Its just both sides have done things to make the other one raise some kind of protection from getting hurt. Its the whole well she did and he did. Both Men and woman just need to grow up and learn that a relationship takes two. That there has to be compromise and you have to learn to deal with the issues instead of running away from them. People also need to stop saying I love you when they do not mean it.

Answer 4

Men have changed. Number one reason is that women are so available.

Men are designed by God to be visually stimulated and to have a strong sex drive. Satan uses that to disrupt society and family with hussies who are half dressed and willing to do nasty things with about anybody. Even the guys who try to stay on track get offers. Even UGLY guys like me.

So after being tempted enough times most men cave to temptation. Philosophy follows morality. Always.

Soon interest in monogamy fades. Interest in the next stupid girl with a thong under a short skirt increases. Or a white t-shirt without undergarments. Or or oh never mind.

Short answer - the devil is good at his job.

Bad answer - all men are dogs, except me baby, come over here and lets talk about it.

Truthful answer - women changed too, so be strong and hold out for that one in a thousand guy that can keep himself straight. But if you give him your body before marriage, if you dress to entice, if you perpetuate the problem in these or a multitude of other ways. Then you don't have room to complain.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have had a bad experience with one or more men. On behalf of guys, I would like to apologize for those men who have not treated you with the respect you deserve.

Whenever I hear a guy 'bragging' about how he's been with a lot of women, I really feel sorry for him. I've tried it both ways, and while monogamy is more difficult at first, it is WAY more satisfying in the long run. I've been with my current g/f (and then wife) for 5 years now and let me tell you, NOTHING IS MORE AWESOME than the incredible, long term, true passion of a monogamous relationship.

The men who refuse to be monogamous need to grow up and realize that they should stop pursuing immediate, cheap thrills and stick with the one-on-one relationships, where the real action is.

In answer to your question, "What would we have to be like in order to get what we want from you?” my answer would be:

There's nothing you can do, so long as you're only trying to attract scum-of-the-earth men who want you to do more than your share of the housework, be barefoot and pregnant, raise babies and at the same time have a high-paying career. The "fine men" you talk about have so many women going after them that they can afford to be very selective. In the end, they only go for the women who will do everything for them, but not ask anything in return.

But there are fine men out there who actually "get it" and will treat you right. Once again, I am so sorry for the actions of those men who treated you poorly. Good luck in finding men who will love you for who you are and not for what you will do for them.

Answer 6

You sound bitter! You must be talking from experience! I am really sorry to if that is what happened to you. Certainly, you have got a row deal from your husband. But believe me not ALL men are like that. There are still a few who are still gentlemen.

I agree with you, that women deserve more resect, trust, love, devotion loyalty, gratitude and consideration. But men, in general, have not really changed much. They have been acting in this way for years and years, bu with modesty, because reality restricted them. Women, on the other hand, have changed a lot.

There are more and more half-naked women in our streets, offices, shops, busses, trains, airoplanes, TVs, etc., etc.

Women, in other words, have become more and more seducers than ever before, with greater success.

Men, who by nature, are animals when it comes to sex are easily seduced by looks, and think that a little play wont harm his steady relationship with his wife or gf. Alas it does, because the one event leads to another and so on and so forth.

One most important thing to remember, in all this, is that men cheat with women! so, its a question of a chiken and egg, which came first?

Answer 7

Men haven't changed, you just hear about it more because women have gotten tired of it and are fighting back. Not all men are bad. But all PEOPLE have faults. If your man won't come around and listen to reason, like "How would you feel in my shoes?"or"What's good for the goose is good for the gander", I'd try making him live without all that you do for him. Don't harp at him about all that you do, just quit doing it. But remember, he's not cheating alone. If we could get rid of the sleezy "women" that don't love anyone but themselves and don't care who gets hurt, Then the weaker sex, "men", wouldn't have anyone to cheat with. (Unless they go to the other side of the fence. Now which would be worse?)

Answer 8

I will try to make this quick. Women create one or two eggs a month. Men have the ability to create one sperm for every person in the world in a single day! Women are obviously much more guarded of who they give that one or two eggs a month too. We have sperm for everyone!
I am 33 and I have slept around enough to know what is out there. I tell all women in your twenties, enjoy yourself and wait to get married until your 26 or older! Make sure he is 30 or older and has been around! It is a chemical difference that you will never understand being a women! Protect yourself buy getting a guy that has worked it out of his system. We don't all cheat!

Answer 9

I am a woman but I can answer this one. Men do this because too many women make it easy for them to do so. They do not feel the need or pressure to improve because there are too many ohter girls that would put up with them. Also, society has emphasised too much on beauty and sex that nobody values true commitment and honesty anymore.

Answer 10

Uhmmm, maybe you have met the wrong men. I am a one woman man who still has the etiquette to open the doors, close the doors, buy flowers all the time, not just on special occasions, treat a woman with dignity and respect, and I also realize that sex is not the only thing in a relationship, but how it is done.
I am 43 years old......experience and learning is what got me to this point. And now, I am appreciated for being mature, not wanting.