2007-01-31 04:19:56 · 50 answers · asked by st. p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What can you do? Respect that she just wants to be friends and don't push her....for now. Remain friends. The idea that you like her is now in her head so let it soak in for a few days/weeks. Perhaps she'll come to realize that you guys can be a couple. Don't give up....but don't push the issue either.
2007-01-31 04:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, recognize that you've been rejected. Sure, she may be your best friend but she's not into you romantically. If she doesn't want you theres really nothing you can do to change her mind. That's something she'll have to do on her own.
However, there are a few things that you can do that will make you more attractive to her.
One, focus on the things that are important to you. Whatever it is that you enjoy doing or whatever it is that you want to do with your life, go for it now. Don't keep putting it off. Set yourself some goals based on what you enjoy and what you'd like to be doing in five or ten years. Be sure that these are goals that involve you exclusively. Goals like "I want to have 3 kids and be married" are great but they involve other people. These should be independent goals, not shared or communal ones. Example, "I want to make my own independent film" or "I want to graduate from college".
Next, focus your time and energy on the things that you can do on your own to make you feel better about yourself. Exercise is awesome. Learning to do something new and fun is great, like playing guitar or building a cabinet or working on your car.
Finally, be the man. Throw yourself into your work. Even if you hate your current job situation be the best at it that you can be. Go the extra mile and in the process you'll earn the respect and admiration of your employers and co-workers. And that will make you feel awesome.
All of these things build confidence, and confidence is key when it comes to women.
2007-01-31 04:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by brandnamewarfare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she might not want to take it to the next step right this very second because she might not want to jeopardize your friendship. She probably cares alot about you like as her best friend and all but she might be a little scared if you guys break up and never talk to each other ever again. You see what I mean. Just try and take things slow with her. You might get her in the end. Good Luck and be sure to tell me how it turns out.
2007-01-31 04:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!!! that is one of the most difficult situation a person could be in. There's not much you can do and you should be careful with what you say and how you behave with her in order not to lose her. Personally, if after clearing up things with her and she doesn't feel the same for you, I would move on. A break from seeing her would be important because you want your feelings to readjust to the idea of her being with someone else. You don't want to lose your bestfriend. Try to date and go out just to keep yourself away from her for a short period of time. It is painful - I must admit- but it's the best way to move on and to keep her as your best friend.
good luck
2007-01-31 04:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jay C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if all your friend truly wants is a friendship then the answer is clear. Move on and find someone else to be with. Be friends with her still but don't push her for anything more cause then you could possibly lose your friendship as well and you dont want to do that not if you care for her the way you seem to. Good luck!
2007-01-31 04:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have much of a choice. She has made it clear she wants nothing more than friendship. That is a clear sign that she is not attracted to you in the way you want. Just give it up and don't hope for more. Move on and find someone that likes you the same way.
2007-01-31 04:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the friendship, but move on to find someone who may love you back. Treat the other woman very well. Your best friend may realize what she is missing and she may have a change of heart--then it will be up to you to decide!
It seems to be human nature to want what one cannot have!
2007-01-31 04:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by kathleen m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about the possibilities of what could happen if you continuted to pursue her. You are her best friend, you probably know how she reacts in/to situations of this nature. If she is really your best friend, and you really care about her, then respect her wishes and leave her alone (romantically). Don't risk losing your friendship when you know up front she doesn't want a romantic relationship with you.
2007-01-31 04:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by Calli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being her friend, if you can handle it. Don't make any advances on her, since that will just push her away.
I was friends with my g/f for 6-months before I realized I loved her more than anything. If she had been pushing me the whole time for a more serious relationship, it would have just driven me away. As it is right now, we just had our third wedding anniversary.
2007-01-31 04:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Conrad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect what she says and realize that her feelings aren't going to change just because you want them to. And also, It might be good for you if you don't hang out with her as much. I mean if it hurts to be around her then you might want to consider spending a little less time together, even if she is your best friend because when you fall for your best friend, that changes the dynamics tremendously. Good Luck.
2007-01-31 04:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jade D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋