at work last night, a friend jumped in and stated in front of the guy that i have a crush on , "we want to know if u r single?" she did it out of the blue and i had never told her ab my feelings for the guy. he smiled and said" yes, i am single" but i was so embarresed bc she made me look desperate. afterwards i just steped out the area and kept myself busy. in two days i'll be working with him but now i am very uncomfortable and i am not sure ab his feeligs. what to do?
2007-01-31 04:19:27 · 23 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently your friend likes this person, because you stated that you had not stated your feelings to her. The guy doesn't know it was YOU who had feelings, merely that ONE of you does.
don't be embarrassed at all, this happens, normally in high school or junior high, but occasionally out in the real world as well.
If you really like him, you should tell him, otherwise you are going to drive yourself NUTs thinking all the time about this person rather than concentrating on work.
It's always better to get feelings out in the open than let them fester.
2007-01-31 04:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by are_see_bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ignore Tom T. he didn't even have the brains to answer your question. Okay to the question at hand, yes it is embarrassing what your friend did, but then again didn't it break the ice? At least now you know whether or not this guy is interested in you, but the best thing to do is act as if nothing big really happened (though I know that is easier said than do) this way if he doesn't like you, you won't look like you care either way. He knows you are interested so the ball is in his court! Everything works out for the best, just have a little faith. :)
2007-01-31 12:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by TootsieGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buck up, it is not your embarrassment to own. It is your friends. She should be ashamed at bring this to your work place. The only way to save face is to make light of it. You need to apologies to that person at your work for your crazy and embarrassing friend. The other person will also make light of it and you can both move on. If you make too much of the minor friend infraction then you can create in your mind a situation that really is just in your mind. Embarrassing moments are a part of life, this one is a minor one, keep it in perspective and go to work, business as usual.
Tracylyn S
2007-01-31 12:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st don't be embarrassed. Your friend is the one who said it not you. HE will not think anything of it - when guys are complemented they are flattered, nothing more.
You obviously like him because if not you wouldn’t be consumed and embarrassed by it for the past couple days. If you do like him then talk to him, and get to know him see were his head is at.
But if you’re embarrassed by what she said and you tell him or make a big deal of it you’re already a red flag for him for DRAMA as far as not getting involved with a co-worker.
So blow it off have fun get to know him, and see where it goes. You can’t control things that come out of others mouths so don’t let it bug you.
Good Luck
D
2007-01-31 12:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act normal when u see him, as if nothing was ever said. If he is interested he will make a move, now that he thinks u like him. As far as your friend goes, I would take her aside and let her know u didn't appreciate her humiliating u, and not to do anything like that again.
2007-01-31 12:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why be embarrassed about it, your friend is the one who did it. If the subject comes up with you and him, then tell him you have no idea what possessed her to do it, but say you had really wondered if he was single or attached. No harm done, he probably hasn't given it another thought, and probably won't say anything unless he likes you and wants to have something to talk to you about.
2007-01-31 12:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and don't lst on about anything that happened. Give him a chance to let you know that he may like you and be as friendly as you know how and be sure and smile a lot but not a fake one. Be real in all that you do.
2007-01-31 12:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had feelings for a co-worker and I'd be mortified if this happened to me but if he felt the same, you should be relieved. Dont avoid him, he may like you and be upset you are avoiding him. Wouldnt you rather just know?
2007-01-31 12:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i am going to sound like yoda but i like that little dud4e i really sugest that u fallow ur heart if that doesnt work then u must have a black heart like mine but still if u trly love him then just maybe u two can get it on or off which ever sexprsion u want to us
2007-01-31 12:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by bowser011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it naturally. Don't act like anything happened. It'll work itself out!
2007-01-31 12:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋