My 4 year old's father does nothing really for her, I really regret even bothering with trying to force him to pay child support for her, he lied about his income so he pays really nothing per month he's behind about three months and he has back support. He never see's her his choice, and mine due to his careless life, and actions, she has a step father that has been in her life since she was 4 months old, she loves him, and he loves her, but now that I want to let him become her legal father, which he agrees on, due to her dead beaters legal aspects, he doesn't want to drop his rights to her but he does nothing, she has my last name she knows nothing about him, so how do I get around him? To let her be recognized witht the father that she deserves?
2007-01-31 04:12:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately without the biological father giving up his rights, you can't move forward with letting her step father adopt her. You might be able to set up a lunch date with him (the biological father) and talk sense into him in a calm way to make it sound wonderful that he'll be off the hook with child support and back payments. I'm sure if you go about it in a way he will like, he just might sign those papers that will get your daughter the father she deserves. If you think there's a little hope, go ahead and pull the paperwork so you can get the autograph you need. Much luck to you and your family.
2007-01-31 05:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im dealing with a situation now with a ineffective beat dad. i'm 5 weeks pregnant and he doesnt desire to hearken to something concerning the toddler he deosnt desire me to even have it. So a ineffective beat dad is somebody who isnt taking care of their accountability. they don't seem to be adult adult males and at last will locate out that their lacking out on something particular. If that newborn doesnt see the dad a minimum of two times a week thats a ineffective beat dad to me. If hee doesnt enable his self be everyday to the newborn and coach the newborn love and enable them to appreciate that they are going to continually be there for them and don't manage the mummy incorrect interior the approach then hes a stable dad. Take heed.
2016-12-13 05:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer. Maybe there's a way to "blackmail" him into signing over his rights. If he doesn't pay child support, then he loses his rights. If he pays, then he can keep his rights. Don't know if it's possible but really, a conversation with an experienced family lawyer is your best bet. May be time to get nasty.
2007-01-31 04:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rights are a function of responsibility. The person who takes responsibility for the child will ultimately prevail. Children know who love them and are there for them.
The 'deadbeat parent' can either step to the plate and be a man or you should pursue him to the full extent of the legal statutes. The whole concept of nonsupport should be abhorrent in these tumultuous expensive times.
2007-01-31 04:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It takes two to make a baby I don't understand what gives you the right to ask him to sign over his rights. Maybe he isn't what you wanted but not allot of dads are as attentive as moms. You sound angry and need to get over it. You need to love your daughter more then you hate her dad. I hope you don't say mean things in front of your daughter about her dad. Just remember something about him made you want to sleep with him and have a baby. Just focus on being a mom and quit worrying about your ex.
2007-01-31 06:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer, tell him that he lied about his income, is behind paying for child support. The lawyer will be able to do something about it.
Sorry not much help =/
2007-01-31 04:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~MexicanCutie~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should he be forced to support his daughter? You weren't forced to let her be born, were you? Why do only women have the right to terminate their connections to their children? They even have multiple ways to get it done; they can give their child up for adoption; they can drop a newborn off at a fire station or hospital and leave them there, no questions asked; or they can kill their unborn child.
On the flip side, men have no say whatsoever in whether they will become fathers. They have no legal say in whether their child is killed or is allowed to be born. Once the child is born, they are legally REQUIRED to financially support the child, whether or not they "chose" to allow them to be born.
Doesn't it logically follow that men will eventually demand their equal rights to "choose" whether to reproduce? Oh, I forgot...they should "keep 'it' in their pants" if they don't want to have kids. Why is in politically incorrect to say the same about the mother? Equal rights, my ***...
This is the future of our society, as long as abortion remains legal. More and more abandonment of children by their fathers. It's the logical next step, no? Pretty soon, there will be a "grace period" after a baby is born when the parents can just decide to "give it back" so to speak. Sanctioned infanticide has already been proposed by Dutch doctors and other widely known "physicians".
http://www.nationalreview.com/smithw/smith200503220759.asp
It's happening little by little but it's happening. Do something to stop it.
2007-01-31 04:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Well here is some advice:
http://girlsandboystown.org
or
1-800-448-3000
2007-01-31 05:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Erik W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pretend he doesn't exist. It's easier that way.
2007-01-31 06:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋