Me and My boyfriend of 13 months but who i known since i was
10 i am now 18 are moving with each other to louisana on monday i am scared because i don't know what the future holds for us and plus i will have no family around my family tells me this is a good thing because it will give me the drive i need to become successful in life my question is will these feelings go away or not knowing what life holds for me and my relationship ever be answered
2007-01-31 03:52:19 · 5 answers · asked by terrificlady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing will give you the 'drive i need to become successful in life ' apart from your motivation.
Remember, moving home is not permanent, unless you are sent to prison. Keep in touch with your friends and family and invite them over regularly, so that you get continuous support and someone to talk to outside of this relationship.
18 is very young to commit to a lifelong relationship and new location - you don't say how far this is for you to move to.
I love Louisiana, and have spent months there, visiting from England. It's varied and has good air links from Baton Rouge, New Orleans and other airports. The locals are also famous for their friendliness and have made me very welcome. I've been to many US states but La beats the lot for friendliness.
Start up some interests that will also get you outside of your new home away from your boyfriend. It is not that healthy to spend too much time with each other. There are likely to be new pressures that you will encounter and support from outside of your relationship will really strenghten your position. Consider how you could best meet new people - perhaps others moving in but especially locals who will be able to show you around to the best places etc.
They will also have some stability in their lives that new-movers won't have. That's a blessing.
We never know what the future holds for our relationships, whether 18 or 88, life is not a pre-purchased plan. What we invest in them does influence the outcomes that we get. All relationships need to be nourished. I suggest that you talk through some of your concerns with people that you know, before you leave. At least they will be able to provide some follow up, once you are over in La.
Good luck, it's a great place! Watch out for the alligators in the swamps. Rob
2007-01-31 04:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rob E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your asking is what normal....? Moving in with your boyfriend? I personally wouldn't do it. Especially if I would be leaving my family and friends. What for? You should be leaving your family and friends to pursue a job endeavor or when you get married, but not for something that isn't for certain like this relationship. It's barely been a year. The choice is yours of course, but I don't think it's a good idea. Also, your only 18, moving in with your boyfriend doesn't even give you the option of seeing what else is out there and enjoy being single. I've been in this situation, and I think you really focus on school or building a career and becoming financially stable.
2007-01-31 12:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him then go for it. If he wants to live with you and share his life with you then he obviousely loves you. Listen to what your heart is telling you, Is he the one for you? You'll know what to do if you take a few minutes to sit down and listen to your heart and find out if he's the one you belong with forever.
2007-01-31 11:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is for certain what our future holds but all I know is that you take the paths that lead you to your destinations.
2007-01-31 11:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by rqerita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age you need to worry about an education, not shacking up with your boyfriend.
2007-01-31 11:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋