2007-01-31 03:47:07 · 28 answers · asked by Chika Hermosa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is easy. Say no. Absolutely not. Don't listen to the 2 other answers so far, because they are giving bad advice. Whatever he did to hurt you, he will do again, no matter what he says. People don't change for others, they only change because they want to. And in this situation, he has no incentive to change.
2007-01-31 04:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have actually been in that situation before... He knows that you are still vonlurable right in the first place because he knows (more than likely) that he hurt you. Just let him know how you feel about the whole situation... He needs to know. Just explain to him what he did that hurt you and that you really don't want to get hurt again. Listen to him intently and if he makes the notion that he wont hurt you again, then it is up to you were the relationship will go. But you should make it clear to him that if you do go with him again, that if he hurts you like the first time, that his second chance will be his last. Trust me, if you tell him that if he "screws up" again the relationship is over, he will try harder (if he really likes you) to make it work this time. I hope everything works out.
2007-01-31 11:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends how bad did he hurt you the first time, if it was cheating you got observe him and see if he's still doing the same things, if it was a personal flaw check to see if he ha made a change. Mainly don't junmp back into his arms so quick, make sure what ever the reason was ya'll broke up the first time isn't an issue. And certainly make it clear no games, no old crap, let him know your not up for the heart ache.I'm in that same spot good luck...
2007-01-31 12:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by pvy_crazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what happened and why he became X.
How were you hurt? If he went out with another girl, that is a warning sign. You do not want him again because he showed you his true colors.
But if it is something else, think this thru carefully. Go out but tread very cautiously. Any sign of the old repeating itself, then you cut it off right there, and tell him why. Never go back ever again.
2007-01-31 11:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that. You like him but you don't want to get hurt again. I wouldn't chance it. You'll probably be happier in the long run if you just move on. You can still be friends with benefits.
2007-01-31 11:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Ask yourself WHY he is your EX boyfriend
2. Give yourself a realistic answer
3. If HE broke up with YOU: why is he back? What's different? (P.S. He did NOT "see the error of his ways!" SOMETHING happened in his life, and YOU are the soft landing pad).
4. If YOU broke up with HIM: has HE changed? has HE gotten rid of the problem that broke you two up?
5. Look at #2 again. And again. And again.
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2007-01-31 11:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he ever cheated or treated you bad I would say tell him no. But, they also say a person never knows or relaize how much someone means to them until they dont have them anymore. He could of just relaized that he really loves you and misses you and cant live with out you. You need to make the call not us. Just ask your self is he worth it and could we settle down together.
2007-01-31 11:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by aarena19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go out with him, but let him know where you stand and how you feel about him. Don't try to hide it because in the end your true feelings will come out one way or another. Be honest, upfront and direct. Ask him exactly what his intentions are....is this just a friendly date or is he looking for more, that way..it's no surprise to you later on.
2007-01-31 11:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your decision.. my advice is if you miss the relationship you guys had its ok to open it back up and let him back in, just this time make sure that you set the standards, see him and deal with him when you want.. on your terms let him know your running the show because you cannot afford to continually get your feeling crushed!
2007-01-31 11:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kee-Kee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow Your Heart baby! If you got hurt last time, unless he's a changed boy ... you'll more than likely get hurt again. do whats best for you honey! good luck!
2007-01-31 11:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by msdrdn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋