How can I tell my babysitter/day care provider that I'm not using her anymore?

Question

I don't want to offend her, and we've only been there a few weeks, but there have been several reasons that make me uncomfortable about leaving the kids with her.
My gut says not to be honest, and just say something vague, but what should I say?
How can i tell her I'mnot coming back without offending her too badly?

Answer 1

Why are you worried about offending a person you wont trust your children with? If you're dishonest with her, you're compromising your integrity.
Tell her you found another provider,and leave it at that!

Answer 2

If you don't think you should tell her the truth, just give her a vague answer and thank her for her time and just be honest that you aren't bringing the kids over anymore. Most babysitters require a few days notice though, so you either have to pay her for a few more days or have her babysit for a couple more days.
Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Your choice is this: Not to offend her Vs improving her child care.

Yes you can make some excuse for changing child care and not offend her. But that is not the truth it is one of those "little lies" that people tell to prevent hurting someone's feelings.

However, if you found something that makes you "uncomfortable" is it about how she cares for children? If you take your child somewhere else without telling her why, you have not done anything to improve her child care. The next mother may not be so observant.

My personal opinion is worry less about hurting her feelings and more about the quality of her child care.

Answer 4

You say, "I am no longer in need of your services." There is nothing offensive in that statement. If she inquires further, repeat.
Note that in this way you are not lying about a family member or other convenient center, etc. but absolutely telling the truth.

If she is a bad babysitter, she has certainly heard this before. Don't worry overly about it.

Answer 5

Don't beat around the bush about it. I'd be completely honest with her, but in a loving fashion. Sit her down and tell her some issues have been raised which concern you, go through the issues and finish up the conversation by stating that you will no longer user her until these issues are dealt with.

Answer 6

You really don't have to give any reason, but she may ask you and be within her rights to ask you for 2 weeks pay even if you quit taking your children there. Why don't you try asking her about the things that make you feel uncomfortable.

Answer 7

Say that you found someone that is closer to home or work. That makes it easier to see your kid(s) during the day, you can stop by during you lunch. And that being close to your children physically means a lot to you.

The fact is, if you feel uncomfortable leaving your children with her, get them out of there asap. It ultimately doesn't matter what you tell her.

Answer 8

I can't believe how many people are encouraging you to lie. Out of 16 answers, only 6 suggested you be honest. Your child's safety and wellbeing should take priority over hurting someone's feelings.

Answer 9

Stick with your gut instinct. Then tell her you found someone/someother place easier for you and the kids. You may have to pay for the rest of the month, however it's worth it to keep your kids safe. Good Luck!

Answer 10

You found a place that is closer to home or work or on the way or with more kids for your child to play with or a special education program or something that some other place would have that is better than what she can provide.