a few months ago I met the most amazing man and he's black. He is so kind, honest, generous, handsome man I've ever met. We've been nothing more than friends but recently it's taken a turn...I do not see him as black, only as a wonderful person. I'm worried about about what others will think and do about it. I have a brother that told me he would never step foot in my house again if I date him. How do I deal with this.
2007-01-31 02:50:45 · 18 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it's not your problem,there is no solution ! Your view of him is the correct view. It's your brother's loss,not yours!
As far as others go, you're powerless over how they think, or don't think.Worrying about others approval is a pointless waste of time.
You have a chance for happiness,GO FOR IT !
2007-01-31 02:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by boatworker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if a person's skin had nothing to do with anything, except how prone they are to sunburns :). Unfortunately, many people have strong biases that make no sense in most cases. Some people hate black people, some people hate white people - for no other reason than their skin color. Some people just dislike the idea of people mixing races even if they don't dislike the races separated. It's a very sad fact (people are people!). If you do persue the relationship, you'll be faced with dealing with these people on a pretty regular basis for the entirety of your relationship. I wish you the best of luck no matter what decision you choose.
2007-01-31 02:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you can't revolve your world around everyone else. in doing that you would be a very sad person. your brother all you can do is say bless you baby i guess you will never step foot in my house again oh well, that is unless you all are really close and then if that is the case then he should understand that love has no color. not saying that you are in love with the guy, but what if it got to that point. should you decline yourself that feeling because of how your brother feels. there are a number of relationships that would not be today if they went off the feelings of family members. but eventually the family had to come around because they love you. you know not everyone is going to appove of the things you do and how you live your life. but thats the thing you have to live it for you and not everyone else. i say give it a try it may be good for you!! Good Luck!!
2007-01-31 03:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by kid on the block 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you have already dealt with it as far as you are concerned. If anybody else has an issue with it, there's nothing that you can do to control that so I wouldn't even try if it were me.
Since your man is such a wonderful person, then maybe he can introduce you to some more wonderful people who aren't so screwed up over issues of race.
Sorry about your brother though. He's obviously trying to control who you see, & who you date. I guess he's going to have to make a choice about what he loves the most. His sister, or his prejudicial views.
2007-01-31 03:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interracial relationships upset a lot of people.
I recommend you look for some support groups in your area for people who are in interracial relationships. Talk to folks who are in such relationships in your area. They'll be able to tell you more about how your community will react than anyone on the Internet ever could.
As for your brother, he has his own issues, and if he's going to place the race ahead of family, he clearly isn't that attached to his family to begin with. I hate to say it, but you may not be losing much if he's so mind numbingly racist that he would cut you off for dating a black man.
2007-01-31 03:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happy then it shouldnt matter what color his skin is. It is the person inside that skin that is important. Your Brother is being a racist and he will just have to deal with it. Dont let what other people might say or do. Go with the way you feel...be happy! Good Luck
2007-01-31 02:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can't help whom we fall in love with.
Maybe if you held a small gathering, invited Mr. Dreamy and your brother, they could sit down, talk, and get to know one another.
About others accepting your relationship? It's all in the demographics. If you live in a large city, it's probably no big deal, where as if you live in a small town, you'll always get strange looks.
2007-01-31 02:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bye Bye Brother.
2007-01-31 02:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pretending To Work 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your brother is a racist ***. He needs to get over himself and you need to do what is right for you not your brother. Sounds like you and this guy have a good thing going, but the sad truth of it is there are a lot of people who will not like it, white and black. :(
2007-01-31 02:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by marktron_3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should date who you want to. If your brother can not deal with it, let him stay away from your house. Your brother dated who he wanted to date. It is your life, take control of it.
2007-01-31 02:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋