If you are in a committed relationship w/a man, do u think it's okay 4 him to have "alone" time with other

Question

women.. if they are just friends? Is it me not trusting or him being disrespectful? Thanks!

I have met the other girl. She doesn't have a boyfriend. He tells me when they are planning to see each other. They go out in a group setting 4-5 times a week, and sometimes end up alone at the end of the night. He has slept in her guest room becuase he was too drunk to drive. I can't go out with them becuase i have a young child.

Answer 1

Are you guys really trustful of each other, are you two open? Then you should trust him, he'll would not do anything with other women if he loves you.
But it also depends, it is one woman? Then have a check on it, if its a friends group and they have boyfriends, dont worry.

Answer 2

Speaking from the man's point of view, I don't think it is ok for the man to have alone time with another woman if he is in a committed relationship. From experience I know it is very difficult for a man to resist if the 'friend' makes any type of come-on.

I say therefore that he is being disrespectful, because I don't think there is any real man that can be trusted in that situation. If he CAN be trusted in that situation, I wouldn't consider him to be a real man, and I don't mean that to sound arrogant!

Answer 3

Alone time where? If the time they are spending overwhelms or interferes with your time then I would find it disrespectful. Have you met this friend? If you two haven't talked or met, then I would think it is a problem. But overall, it should be okay as long as it isnt secretive. If he's okay with your male friends, then I guess you have to have more trust.

Answer 4

Do you have a reason not to trust him? I mean, has he proven in the past that he can't be trusted? If he's never given you a reason not to trust him, there's nothing wrong with that. I spend alone time with male friends and my b/f trusts me. If we spent all our time together, life would be very boring! He doesn't like to do all the same things that I do, so I do them with other friends.

Answer 5

it's not a matter of right and wrong, it just depends on what you're comfortable with and how much respect you have for one another. I quit hanging out with and talking with my guy friends when I met my husband, because I couldn't get comfortable with the idea of him hanging out with other women, and I didn't want to be a hyppocrate.
It all depends on the guy too, some guys are naturally flirtacious and it may be hard for you to trust him hanging out with women without you when you know how he is. But some guys just don't click with other guys and they find it easier to communicate with women and ask for advice.

Answer 6

Why would he want "alone time" with another woman? I would definately be putting a stop to that. I have made my boyfriend give up all contact with female friends.... except for 2 (who are married and I trust as much as him). I do trust him... but he was friends with sluts... one of his friends from school called him when she found out she was pregnant from a one nighter... that ended quickly. Another friend would tell him about all her sex toys... needless to say, they have stopped talking.

I hope you decide to do the right thing... but I would not allow it.

Answer 7

I can understand him needing alone time. We all need a little time to ourself but with other women? That seems a bit odd to me. I think he's being disrespectful and I'd be a bit uneasy about the situation. Perhaps you need to ask him how he would feel if you needed alone time with other men.

Answer 8

What do you mean alone time?If they are just friends,it should be ok.